(Closed) Ugh, the stupid bar issue!

posted 7 years ago in Reception
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    Suck it up and pay the $25k+ for the 4 hr full bar

    Compromise: 1 hr full open, 3 hrs beer & wine

    forget it - no bar = no wedding, just elope

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Just do all beer and wine, no liquor.  I wouldn’t miss liquor at a wedding.

    Are you sure all 300 people will even come?

    Honestly I would find a different venue that you could bring your own liquor/beer/wine into if you actually want to host a full bar.  Or find one with cheaper bar packages.

    There were some venues I LOVED around here but I didn’t even bother with them because I felt their open bar packages were too costly in addition to their high rental fees.  So I found a beautiful place with a similar cost for the open bar but with much lower rental fees.

    Mine is $39 per person for 6 hours.  And I only have 100 people. 

    Post # 18
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yeah, I would just do beer and wine all night, with the option for guests to pay for liquor if they want it. This is what we did and it worked out very well.

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    That is ridiculous. Can you find a venue that lets you bring in your own alcohol? It is MUCH cheaper that way.

    If you can’t, I would either do just beer & wine & 2 signature cocktails. 

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Beer and wine is fine, if someone absolutely has to have a cocktail, let them pay for it themselves, that price is outrageous!

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @KDOS:  We are doing beer/wine/champagne, with a few choices of each. You don’t need to have top shelf liquor to make people happy!

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think just have beer and wine, or even a few pre-discussed cocktail options. 25k is unbelievable! Also, if your friends like to drink “a lot” you don’t want too many people enjoying shots 😉

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would do either beer and wine, or find a venue that is less for full open!  Those prices are ridiculous!

     

    We are getting married in NY, which made it wayyyy cheaper to do an open bar than it would have been in MA.  Our wedding is still about $25k, but adding open bar in MA would have added $4-5k to that number.

    Post # 25
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    The value you will get from the open bar is much less than the price you will pay for it. The people who drink enough to care about it might be momentarily offended when they ask for that jack & coke and get denied, but once that have 2-3 more beers, they won’t even remember. And given your guest list size, it’s likely that the people that would care the most are the people that aren’t even that close to you.

    Post # 26
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @jdhall89:  +1

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

    I wouldn’t pay that much. Try the other alternative of beer and wine hosted during cocktail hour and then cash bar for reception. Or have only beer and wine for entire evening. But what do I know, I am one of those that is ok with having a cash bar. Its accepted within my circle.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Haha, my DH was the same way. The minute he got involved in wedding planning it was “We ABSOLUTELY need 4 hours of full open bar!” I had to tone him down a bit, we compromised on 3 hours and no premium liquors, and no one even noticed when the bar closed because everyone was already dancing and feeling good!

    That price does seem INSANE. A lot of times its cheaper to not have premium brand liquors. Can you ask if you can have just cheaper liquor brands, or do wine/beer/signature cocktail? 

    On the other hand, for most of MY friends who like to drink, wine and beer is fantastic for them. I’m one of the only ones who likes mixed drinks (and my DH. I mentioned just wine/beer and he said “NO! I need like, 6 mojitos at my wedding.”) You might want to think doing the wine/beer route for the whole thing. 

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    do a beer wine and vodka bar 🙂 lol Most people will drink one of those! Personally, I don’t drink wine to get drunk, but I do drink wine when casually hanging out with friends. I’m also etremely picky when it comes to wine, so I most likely wouldn’t drink that. Every man I know will drink beer (except my Future Father-In-Law, who is celiac), and some woman love beer as well! Vodka is my poison of choice. Delicious with nearly every mix 🙂

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