Post # 17
Just do all beer and wine, no liquor. I wouldn’t miss liquor at a wedding.
Are you sure all 300 people will even come?
Honestly I would find a different venue that you could bring your own liquor/beer/wine into if you actually want to host a full bar. Or find one with cheaper bar packages.
There were some venues I LOVED around here but I didn’t even bother with them because I felt their open bar packages were too costly in addition to their high rental fees. So I found a beautiful place with a similar cost for the open bar but with much lower rental fees.
Mine is $39 per person for 6 hours. And I only have 100 people.
Post # 18
Yeah, I would just do beer and wine all night, with the option for guests to pay for liquor if they want it. This is what we did and it worked out very well.
Post # 19
That is ridiculous. Can you find a venue that lets you bring in your own alcohol? It is MUCH cheaper that way.
If you can’t, I would either do just beer & wine & 2 signature cocktails.
Post # 20
Beer and wine is fine, if someone absolutely has to have a cocktail, let them pay for it themselves, that price is outrageous!
Post # 21
@KDOS: We are doing beer/wine/champagne, with a few choices of each. You don’t need to have top shelf liquor to make people happy!
Post # 22
I think just have beer and wine, or even a few pre-discussed cocktail options. 25k is unbelievable! Also, if your friends like to drink “a lot” you don’t want too many people enjoying shots 😉
Post # 23
I would do either beer and wine, or find a venue that is less for full open! Those prices are ridiculous!
We are getting married in NY, which made it wayyyy cheaper to do an open bar than it would have been in MA. Our wedding is still about $25k, but adding open bar in MA would have added $4-5k to that number.
Post # 24
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
Oh good, glad to hear I’m not crazy! I keep telling Fiance that just because we can’t have EVERYTHING on our wish list, doesn’t mean we can’t have a great wedding. We just need to pick and choose whats most important. (We learned that we can’t compromise on the guest list. Got it down as far as we can & it’s around 325. I’m hoping we will get attendence closer to 275.)
The main reason the cost is so high is we are looking at having it at a resort in Tahoe. We want to have it where everyone can stay for the weekend and enjoy more than just a few hours of a wedding. With resorts, come the high prices, the 20-25% service fees and the 7.5% tax on top of the food and beverage costs.
Last night I told him, if full open bar is more important to him, we need to consider a local venue that is available to us at almost no cost (a local winery owned by family friends) that would allow us to bring in our own liquor. But if the weekend wedding in Tahoe is more important we need to consider not having open bar.
I love that he wants to be so involved in the wedding planning, but it gets frusterating that he has a hard time seeing the bigger picture with some things.
Post # 25
The value you will get from the open bar is much less than the price you will pay for it. The people who drink enough to care about it might be momentarily offended when they ask for that jack & coke and get denied, but once that have 2-3 more beers, they won’t even remember. And given your guest list size, it’s likely that the people that would care the most are the people that aren’t even that close to you.
Post # 27
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
I wouldn’t pay that much. Try the other alternative of beer and wine hosted during cocktail hour and then cash bar for reception. Or have only beer and wine for entire evening. But what do I know, I am one of those that is ok with having a cash bar. Its accepted within my circle.
Post # 28
Haha, my DH was the same way. The minute he got involved in wedding planning it was “We ABSOLUTELY need 4 hours of full open bar!” I had to tone him down a bit, we compromised on 3 hours and no premium liquors, and no one even noticed when the bar closed because everyone was already dancing and feeling good!
That price does seem INSANE. A lot of times its cheaper to not have premium brand liquors. Can you ask if you can have just cheaper liquor brands, or do wine/beer/signature cocktail?
On the other hand, for most of MY friends who like to drink, wine and beer is fantastic for them. I’m one of the only ones who likes mixed drinks (and my DH. I mentioned just wine/beer and he said “NO! I need like, 6 mojitos at my wedding.”) You might want to think doing the wine/beer route for the whole thing.
Post # 29
do a beer wine and vodka bar 🙂 lol Most people will drink one of those! Personally, I don’t drink wine to get drunk, but I do drink wine when casually hanging out with friends. I’m also etremely picky when it comes to wine, so I most likely wouldn’t drink that. Every man I know will drink beer (except my Future Father-In-Law, who is celiac), and some woman love beer as well! Vodka is my poison of choice. Delicious with nearly every mix 🙂