(Closed) Ugh! Things MIL's say. Awkward, annoying…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@echolove:  I also love my Mother-In-Law – but for the longest time she would bring up this girl my Darling Husband used to know, that I know he was IN LOVE WITH for a long time, and she’s gorgeous and amazing blah blah blah.  I know there’s a chance she doesn’t realize he had feelings for this friend, and I know that she was NEVER EVER EVER EVER bringing it up to hurt me, but I would be sitting there like WHY the EFF do I care to hear about her life or her mom and what they’re doing etc, every other week? WHY?

I have no idea why it stopped, nothing was said and I didn’t make it weird or awkward when she brought it up, but somehow she just stopped mentioning her.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Darling Husband brother got married last October and we just got married in March.  The bride was stunning and my Mother-In-Law was talking about how beautiful her dress was and then said “Don’t worry sweetie I’m sure yours will be too”. And that kinda frustrated me.  Of course I knew mine did too.  Lol. I just felt like she thought I was jealous.  It was such a small pety comment but for some reason it really botered me.  But I am close with my MiL.  I dont think she meant anything by it.  Lol

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s not so much my MIL’s comments that bother me but my Father-In-Law. He means well but even so he’s said some things to me that I didn’t need or appreciate to hear. The biggest ones he makes are about money. Basically how much he has of it. All I can come up with is, “Good for you?” What do I say to these types of comments? Lately, I’ve just been resigning myself to nod. *sigh*

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

In general my Future Mother-In-Law is kind of an irksome person (to me at least). My SO agrees with me that she has a way of getting under everyone’s skin, but I guess he has just grown used to it over the years. There’s not much that can be done about it though as I would like to remain civil since we see so much of each other. The one thing she has never done is compare me to past girlfriends. I don’t think that any of his other girlfriends were anything to write home about, so if she talks about them she is usually complaining about them LOL. My SO isn’t the type of guy who had tons of girlfriends, and none fo them were that great of relationships, so I think she is just happy to see that he is happy overall, but her parenting and wifing(?) skills are not that great in my eyes…LOL

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@echolove:  ok, ok I’ll one up everyone, just remembered this one… I have an 8 1/2 year old daughter, who at the time was…about 4 1/2.  One day my Mother-In-Law after almost 2 years of dating my Darling Husband says (in front of family at a dinner) ” are you suuuure you aren’t going to have another baby?  “X” (BIL) isn’t giving me one any time soon, and I would love to actually have a grandchild”. Ummmm……so the daugther I brought to your life and this family that you have known since she was almost 3 years old isn’t one?

Let me explain that after multiple surgeries and having endometriosis, it was a blessing I did get pregnant the first time.  To top this off, just 2 weeks ago she mentions in front of my daughter (who’s dad just had his second with a new wife) wouldn’t it be nice if your mom would have one too?” Ok – so let’s bring that up in front of an 8 yr old who would like NOTHING MORE than for me to have a sister or brother for her, but let’s face it, the odds are amazing that I can’t, and I really don’t want to either.  Thanks for that conversation. 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@echolove:  Too funny! This conversation actually went down between my Future Mother-In-Law and I the other day…

Future Mother-In-Law: “How long have you two been together again?” 

Me: “It will be five years this year.”

Future Mother-In-Law: “OH, it feels like it’s been much longer for me!” 

 

Like oh our relationship is such a burden on YOU. I don’t think she meant it to sound that way, but my SO and I both looked at each other like IS SHE SERIOUS??

Post # 11
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Worker bee

My Mother-In-Law has a huge picture frame in her bed room and that’s my fiance’s prom picture lol

Post # 14
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@echolove:  I think that’s exactly what it is, my Mother-In-Law is a really good person, I don’t believe for a second that the shit that comes out of her mouth is to purposly hurt anyone! 

Post # 15
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I like mine but certain comments get annoying. I posted this in another thread but after a conversation about flowers and her randomly asking if she’s supposed to pay for them (wasn’t planning on it, I have the whole wedding taken care of and she never offered) last night she says, “So your mom’s not paying for your dress?” Meanwhile she knew this. Thanks for making me feel bad. 

 

I give my own SIL credit though. My mom is totally crazytrain. 

Post # 16
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh and I wanted to add that last week he told her the names we like for children. I told him not to but it was as he was saying it. But then I said how I don’t like to talk about it because people take the names and we’re a few years away from children. So when I was over the other night she made reference about it and I said how I didn’t want anyone talking about it (in a nice/normal person tone lol) and she let it slip that she already told all her friends at work! And I could tell last week that she didn’t like one name. THAT’S why you don’t tell people. 

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