(Closed) ugh, what would you do about this one?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you have to invite him, I would just put it in his work mailbox.  Although unconventional, there were a few people that we couldn’t get addresses for that my Fiance works with and I finally gave up and said he could just hand deliver them.

Post # 4
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18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think I would just put it in his mailbox.  Obviously, he has some kind of block to it because he isn’t responding to the messages asking for his address.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

If you really must invite him, put it in the work mailbox. Although why you (or your Fiance, rather) still want to invite someone who clearly does not want to be invited, I have no idea 🙂

Post # 6
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think for this I’d send him one last message that says basically hey if you want an invite for our wedding I need your address. If he doesn’t respond I’d just let it be. But if you really feel you must invite him regardless, its okay to put it in his mailbox

Post # 7
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536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh what a jerk! I guess just put it in his mailbox..he is lucky you guys are so nice and still trying to invite him!  I know you want to keep the peace but really..he’s so rude!!

Post # 9
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ugh! Sorry to hear that. What a drama king. Yep, right in the work mailbox it goes.

Post # 10
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1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Um, I would say that two ignored requests for an address means you don’t have to invite him.

I wouldn’t and if he really cared about being invited to the wedding, he would’ve responded so it seems like it probably wouldn’t matter that much!

Post # 11
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1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Put it in his work mailox and just let it be!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i wouldnt even invite him since my rule was – if they are important enough to get invited, they should be considerate enough to fork over their address. so no address = no invite!!!

but if you MUST invite him, then yeah just throw it in his box at work. he apparently doesnt care about being proper so why should you care what he thinks!

good luck!

oh and YES there is this one chick i CANT STAND at my FH’s job. dont know why. just something about her makes my red flag go up *shudder*

Post # 13
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1455 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

When it’s someone I don’t like, I go for direct. To me, in his mailbox = he can just not reply… but then maybe show up. I would just go up to his desk and say “hey, we’ve contacted you xx times for your address. Are you interested in giving it to us for a wedding invite or is your silence an early RSVP? Just checking so we know how much postage we’ll end up needing.” Or something snarky like that. Then he can’t ignore you- you’re right there!

Post # 14
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I would just put it in his work mailbox. It sounds like he lacks serious social graces; he is not going to be bothered that you didn’t mail the invite to his house. I doubt he is even aware of that point of etiquette.

Post # 16
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660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t invite him personally.

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