Post # 1
So one of my bridesmaids since i have known since junior high did not show up for my bridal shower… I actually spoke with her a week before and she confirmed she was coming… sure enough, a no-show! no call, no nothing!.. she tends to be a VERY flaky person and i regret ever asking her to be a bridesmaid… she has slacked on other things as well… i told her to order her size in the shoes for the bridesmaid… three weeks later she still hadnt and it was going to be too late to order them in time for the wedding… i told her she needed to order them and she told me “ok, i will today after i do whatever whatever”.. sure enough two days later she still hadnt!! i had to call her and tell her she has to get that order in.. so she finally did after a lot of pushing and shoving.. I am getting very annoyed and i honestly do not want her as a bridesmaid anymore.. i know i cant ask her to step down because everything has been purchased but she is being so careless! i am afraid she wont even show up on time or at all for the rehearsal! Am i being irrational or would you be equally as ticked off?
Post # 3
nobody has any advice for me? 🙁 lol
Post # 4
No I’d be pissed. I would take her to coffee. Remind her of the fact that this is the most important day of your life. Gently ask her not to stress you anymore. And if that’s something she doesn’t think she can do, tell her it’s ok if she decides to take herself out of the wedding.
Post # 5
I totally understand… my Maid/Matron of Honor is similiar. She’s getting married in Sept (and I’m Maid/Matron of Honor for her wedding) and uses that for an excuse for everything. ( I can’t pay for this b/c I hve my own wedding to worry about….) She even stiffed the other BM’s for paying for my shower. IDK, I know there’s more to the story- but I don’t even want to get into it with them….
I wanted to be the best Maid/Matron of Honor ever for her wedding despite planning/pulling off my own- I had it set in my mind that I wasn’t going to let MY wedding get in the way of helping her with her festivities… but it’s turned into a huge source of stress for me. I feel very unwelcomed in any of the planning- her other Bridesmaid or Best Man is having some sort of competition to be her BFF I guess… ugh. Some people Never change!!!! So I’m basically checked out. I hope that she doesn’t think I’m being flaky…. I’m just trying to stay sane!