(Closed) UGHH! So angry…at myself. And a little bit at him.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s going to be okay.

On one hand, some bees would kill to have this much information about the proposal.

On the other hand, I know what you mean.

Today at Mellow Mushroom, SO told me exactly, like, the fucking day, he’s proposing. Before, I had an idea that it would be Thanksgiving weekend, but after he had asked my dad last week for his blessing, he seemed so excited that I thought maybe it would be in October before he left for a trip.

But no, today at dinner he said, “Well, I know you’re probably asking yourself, ‘Why hasn’t he proposed yet?’ (I hadn’t mentioned anything before this, so I don’t know why he suddenly brought it up) I want you to know that it’s definitely happening when we get to Beech Mountain in November. As soon as we get there. The very day. I want us to enjoy the trip as an engaged couple. I just have to prepare myself mentally, emotionally, and financially for the big changes ahead.”

And then he gave me a kiss.

We’ve been so open about the process, and I get that, and a large part of me appreciates it, but he didn’t have to tell me all of that. *face palm* Well, I guess I shouldn’t get my hopes up for October then.

Anyway, just because he’ll only be there one day doesn’t mean the proposal won’t be spectacular. Men are fascinating creatures and tricksy Hobbitses. You never know what they’ll come up with! You’ll love it, I’m sure. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Aww, that sucks that it won’t be as big of a surprise as you had hoped.

But in his defense, most of the information you have you got from snooping πŸ˜›

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I understand being disappointed. My husband (and a lot of men) think that they are much more sneaky than they really are. For example, he will give me a “hint” about a suprise that he thinks is sneaky, but it actually tells me exactly what he’s planning. What works for me is that I always tell him not give any kinds of hints or clues or mention the gifts he’s getting me. It drives him crazy, but a least it keeps the surprise from being ruined.

My suggestion is to go to your SO directly and say that you’re excited about the engagement but you don’t want him to ruin the surprise by giving any more sneaky hints.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Trust me, it will be amazing and perfect, and knowing when it’s coming will not affect your experience one bit πŸ™‚ I knew it was coming, and I still cried and could not stop smiling πŸ™‚ So don’t worry, and congratulations!! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  if it isn’t like him maybe he is trying to throw you off?

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  I picked the ring myself, he gave me a timeline, I knew we were going on holiday for our anniversary (we do every year) and I was counting down to the day πŸ™‚ And I was at home when he asked for my parents’ blessing. So I knew most things you do, I guessed down to the minute even. (On the actual day I mean, I didn’t guess anything besides the day before the day if that makes sense – he hadn’t proposed by dinner time so I figured he would after, as he knew how I felt about public restaurant proposals :P)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  My husband’s problem is that he gets SO EXCITED about the gifts and surprises that he plans for me, that he really really wants to talk to me about it and give hints. Your SO probably feels the same way about the proposal and he’s dropping hints because he can’t contain the excitement. He probably doesn’t even realize how obvious the hints are lol

My husband made it pretty clear which day he was going to propose, but I wouldn’t let him show me the ring or tell me about any of his plans for the proposal. It drove him crazy not to tell, but in the end it was so worth it because he did it in a really special way.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  It would be *nice* if it was October, but he has been wanting to take me up to the mountains since June, so I don’t think he would ruin the experience of turning the trip into the proposal site. I could be wrong, of course. The area we live in sucks royally, so he might not think there are any good places to propose here anyway. Ah well. I can wait another 2 months. I’ll be just getting done with my last semester of undergrad, so I’ll be less stressed and more focused on us. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I knew exactly down to the day, even though he tried to throw me off by saying it didn’t actually come in (but, come on, FedEx CALLED the day before to say it was coming to make sure someone would be home). It drove me up the WALL! The day of, I had a final in my summer class and I couldn’t concentrate at all. Luckily I was guaranteed an A in the class as long as I turned in the final. 

I also picked out my own ring and was in the room when he ordered it, so I knew approximately how many days it would take. Then, even though he was trying to keep the shipment date from me, his sister (not knowing what it was) spilled the beans that FedEx had called the house. 

He also can’t keep presents from me for more than a day. Once he had it, I knew it’d be on my finger within 24 hours. When he went to take me home that night, he asked if I wanted it that night or the next day. So when I told him I wanted it that night, I knew it was happening in the next 2 minutes. I didn’t mind that it wasn’t a surprise, because it was still a really special moment. Afterwards, I was still giggling and giddy the whole night AND the next day. 

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