(Closed) ughhh! (a little vent – a bit long!)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

You are a much bigger person than I am. I know we only get ‘one day’ but doing it at the same place/resort as I am within 3 days would have gotten a “Um, I don’t think that’s a good idea” even though the evil witch in me would have let her do it 3 days AFTER me *snickers*

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I just think you are a great friend for not having blown up at her already.  I don’t know if I could stand it, and I hate confrontation, but when it comes to your wedding which is supposed to be uniquely you and about you… Well, just some of that glam is being taken away.  Just focus on your own wedding and try not to share too many more specific details with her if possible so you can at least salvage a little bit of your personality in it. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

hmm… that’s tough. 

Maybe talk to her about purposely trying to make your weddings different.  I’m sure if she thinks about it, she’ll want her wedding to be somewhat original as you do.

Or maybe you just have such fabulous ideas that anybody would be tempted to copy 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You have done better than I would so far.

Repeat after me”We haven’t made a decison about that yet”

Stop sharing!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Are many people attending both weddings?  As long as yours is first, you will get the credit Wink

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I totally understand!! We have a group of friends of 18, I know big group.. but everyone dates everyone. there are 9 girls and 9 guys. So anyways 4 of the guys in our group want to propose. but shockingly none of them have. I’ve been engaged since June and none of the other guys want to ask their girls b/c they think it’ll take away our “spot light” now i’ve told every single one of them thats crazy b/c if you do that then one of them will be waiting for 4 years once we all get married. So I know one is proposing in January (3 months before our wedding) then another I think is going to do it like 2 weeks after our wedding. Funny part is. Were getting married april 16. another couple is getting married may 15 (they just got engaged last night) and then ANOTHER couple is getting married may 28th. apparently we started a trend or something but since all of our engagements are apart it hasnt bothered me at all. and all of the girls and guys are all in our wedding. Now I would TOTALLY be careful on not giving out details of your wedding.I’ve had a friend do that already too and I was NOT happy even though my wedding is first out of “the group” Its hard not to share details but I try to share them to the girls that arent engaged yet because well they’ll be getting married obviously way after me. If you really want to make sure she doesnt copy you.. tell her things you totally wouldnt go for. its kinda mean but hey keeps your wedding to being YOUR wedding and not YA’LLS wedding lol

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Unfortunately you already agreed to it, so there’s not much you can do now.

Post # 14
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Newbee

i agree with Jules advice. don’t tell you made decisions on anything. that is pretty sucky! i wouldn’e even want my wedding to be similar to someone’s to begin with.

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