Post # 1
I am so frustrated. I can’t seem to find a “Forever” ring because everytime I like something when I see the price I think “WOAH but not for that much!” I just can not justify spending thousands of dollars on something that I am not 100% in love with. I am seriously considering just wearing cocktail rings and such so I can wear whatever I feel like with out the guilt. That way if I change my mind it’s fine, and I just can chose from several rings I like. And just keep buying fun ones from like esty or JTV. Also Fiance and I can’t agree on a forever ring either. He doesn’t mind spending a good amount but I just think there are a lot of better things to put it towards. Did anyone else run into this issue? Anyone else just rock out several costume pieces? Feel free to post bellow!
Post # 2
My issue with costume rings is that when I find something I like, it doesn’t last. 🙁 Keep in mind that you pay for quality and longevity.
Post # 3
honestly. My promise ring was moissanite and it was absolutely amazing.
I was lobbying for a moissanite engagement ring too, but sadly, they didn’t make moissanite in the shape I wanted at the time so I ended up with a diamond. (not complaining!)
Post # 4
herrera2016: Have you consider Amora gem or moissanite? Diamond alternatives but are also considered forever stones and beautiful. I’m getting an 1.53ct Amora gem, with custom band and taxes for a bit over 1k, if I got a diamond it would have been 10k+! Have a setting you love and a beautiful stone for fraction of the cost.
Post # 5
Why not go for a more reasonably priced gem stone with diamlnd accents? It would be very unique
Or like the others said, moissanite ! X
Post # 6
I agree with WiredOwl that something cheap will probably not last. Personally, if I felt uncomfortable with the cost of a quality ring, I would go with a plain gold band that I could keep forever over multiple cocktail rings. My engagement ring and wedding band have so much sentimental value to me that I could never replace them.
Post # 7
herrera2016: My mom wore multiple rings throughout her marriage (for most of my time on earth it was actually a diamond anniversary band) so it’s good to give yourself wiggle room with the whole “wear it until I’m dead” thing.
I’m going with a simple gold band as my engagement ring for a couple reasons:
1) Solitaire stone rings are traditional but not particularly to my tastes. I really like that band and it feels very me.
2) It was a deep-thoughts-in-the-shower revelation that a pricey ring was not necessary to me. Being publically engaged was a higher priority.
3) I just can’t justify or feel comfortable with spending/asking my SO to spend that amount of money on fine jewelry right now. I can’t wear thousands of dollars on my finger while Nelnet is on my ass about the thousands of dollars of student loans in my name. Plus like, a new mattress would be good. Or a vacation. Or both.
And if you don’t have your heart set on a ring, your engagement gift can be whatever. Your fiance can propose with a Wacom Cintiq, or an SLR Camera, or a record player with a stereo system and starter vinyl collection of your favorite albums, or…..
Post # 8
Gold actually isn’t the most expensive thing on earth, so if you could find a moissanite, or any gemstone you liked, a ring may actually not be that expensive. Are there any colors you love? Morganite, any colored saphire, tourmalines and emeralds are all absolutely gorgeous.. And the price difference is incredible
if you wanted a stone to look like a diamond, the amora gem would be a great option.. Just a little more expensive
ETA: not really sure what your style is, but here are a couple very reasinably priced gemstones in different shapes styles etc.. 🙂
Post # 9
herrera2016: Check out second hand rings on diamondbistro.com, eBay, and your local pawn shops. I’ve purchased several “forever” rings for under $500. My most recent ring us a 6mm cushion moissanite in a 14k white gold cathedral setting with double prongs, and it was less than $300 after resizing.
Post # 10
How about you buy a nice gold band instead? That way, you can use it as your wedding ring (or RHR if you buy another band), and you’ll always have it.
When you fall in love, you’ll fall in love. Or maybe you’ll just never “love” a ring. That’s fine! If you want something to symbolise your commitment, a gold band is always timeless and elegant. Look at different thicknesses (I have some adorable dainty 1mm bands, and I actually wear a family heirloom mens gold wedding band on my right hand some days!) and pick out a pretty one that can represent your relationship.
It’s a LOT of pressure on some of us to pick a forever ring with how expensive they are. I chose a simple design for this very reason.
Post # 11
I think your plan sounds reasonable for the near future until you find what your looking for if that’s what you want. you can set a reasonable budget of your choice and stick to that and not feel as guilty about spending thousands like you said. A couple hundred dollars or less and you can get some nice stuff out there or you can go unconventional as PP have said. Ball is really in your court if your bf is fine with your choices 🙂
Post # 12
herrera2016: That was totally my plan, but Fiance put the kibosh on it. 🙁 He wanted me to have a forever ring, and after talking about it I understood where he was coming from. I wear my ebay finds on my right hand 🙂
Post # 13
You could always look at used rings from pawn shops or what not. We looked at them when we went shopping because we were so low in money at the time. They had their papers with them and most were like 75% cheaper than what youd pay new. Of course, the trick is to find a good shop that wouldn’t scam you. And to decide if you’d be comfortable having a ring that was previously owned.
Post # 14
It all depends on what matters most to you. I also feel that the wedding band is more important. As long as that is a quality material that will last, I would be happy with what ever e-ring.
Post # 15
Yes! He proposed with a costume piece because he got impatient with me not coming up with a style I was for sure on. I’m considering a plain band and just buying a costume piece for photos. Maybe something from berricle. The pawn shop is also a great idea as is moissanite. I love morganites and other gems but Fiance doesn’t think they look like an engagement ring.