Post # 1
She posted a funny comic strip that had a cartoon of a baby in the uterus calling in orders for buffalo wings and other things and she posted it with “As per our conversation earlier ;)” (We were talking about how I was really craving wings etc). I deleted it pretty quickly, but it was probably up for a couple of minutes, and you know how mutual friends can see everything on FB!
So far we’ve only told my mom and sisters, DH’s dad, and my best friend and her family. I’m not going to lie, I’ll be pretty upset if others saw it and ask me about it. I’m 11 weeks right now, and wasn’t planning on telling others until after our next appointment when I’ll be 14 weeks.
I told her I loved the comic, but that I deleted it because I don’t want others to know yet, and he said she thougt everyone already knew. I don’t know why she thought that because when we talked earlier today, I told her who we’ve told so far. Ugh, oh well…
Post # 3
@Cory_loves_this_girl: This is an example of why we still need to learn and use manners in our life. So many Bees think manners and etiquette are no longer necessary, but they are all about being considerate of others.
Post # 5
Honestly, I think its pretty innocent sounding because of the way she phrased it “per your conversation”. That could mean anything and doesnt refer directly to the pregnancy.
If I saw that on a friends post I would think it was an inside joke. If anything, if I saw it and then happen to notice it was deleted (which people probably wouldnt) that would be more suspicious.
Most likely, I dont think any real harm was done and if someone asks you yo can address each case as it comes up.
Post # 6
Ugh that’s so obnoxious. Why don’t people think sometimes… Hopefully no one saw it, if you deleted it quickly.
I just had a similar experience happen, but not quite as bad. I just got engaged a few days ago, and texted a few close friends the day after to tell them the news. I had literally just called my mom to tell her and we hadn’t announced it to the world yet. Like 9 seconds after I texted her she posted it on facebook. Kind of would like to be the one to tell everyone myself! So then I felt pressured to go ahead and put it on there so people would find out from me and not her.
This is one of my best and oldest friends. Combine that with the fact that when I told her the good news, she replied with “it’s about time” and made sure to mention how my engagement was “long awaited” when she put it on facebook. Pretty irritating…
Post # 8
@Cory_loves_this_girl: lol that’s cute, but that doesn’t necessarily mean people will know right off the bat that you’re pregnant. people might not give it a second glance or assume it’s an inside joke bw you and your bff or something along those lines. also, this is why i specifically say, “don’t say anything on my fb” when i say things i don’t want on my fb lol
Post # 9
@julies1949: I kind of figures that since I haven’t posted anything about my pregnancy on FB, it would be common sense that neither should you? I know she didn’t do it to be mean or from a bad place, but when I told her I took it down she was like “Oh well you should tell people now!!!” I feel like she should know better because she’s had 3 miscarriages herself…
Post # 10
Lol I saw that the other day and it was a women making a joke about her husband being acting like a baby….
SO in any case if someone did see it just bring that up 🙂
Post # 11
@ThreeMeers: Yeah I definitely think she only had good intentions and is just excited. I thougt about how it would look if I deleted it, but thought it better to risk it since it was just a few minutes later. I think I’m just annoyed because it’s Darling Husband and my news to share how and when we want, and that was kind of taken away a little here =
Post # 12
@Cory_loves_this_girl: You are right. She should know better. Not only because she has had miscarriages, but also because this is your news to share at the time of your choosing, not hers.
I am sorry, but I disagree with the pp’s. I think anyone with functioning brain cells who saw that caroon would guess that somebody was pregnant.
Post # 13
If someone asks, just say it was a joke about a food baby or something like that.
Post # 14
@julies1949: but why would everyone assume that. IF someone was talking about being pregnant I would assume it would be more direct “Look, your not the only pregnant lady wanting wings!” or something. Or a joke about wanting to be pregnant so she can eat whatever she wants or something.
Instead it was “Per our conversation”. The way she introduced the cartoon would make me think the conversation was about wings and wanting wings, not about pregnancy.
Its one of those cases where since you know what it means, it seems so much more obvious. But if you were not in on the story, its not really that obvious. Its not to say someone wouldnt get it, but its not straight forward at all.
I am not saying it was OK to post, but that I wouldnt stress about people having seen it. Its not as obvious an announcement.
Post # 15
julies1949: —> THIS
WHY don’t people think any more BEFORE they say or do things ???
I think you did the right thing by removing it (hopefully quickly enough)… and telling her that she was out of line
(I mean, as you are being soo carefully about the news, I assume you told her when you spoke this was hush-hush… and then yak, she goes and puts up a joke on FaceBook… she may as well have yelled it out in the Cafeteria… in that I equate FB to High School because of the total clicky feel that it seems to generate… people seriously lose their common sense over this social media website)
I’m sorry, but I disagree with the other Bees who said it wasn’t obvious…
As per our conversation earlier *WINK*
and then a cartoon about a baby in the womb having a craving
Ah ya right, you guys were talking about hanging out at the gym, or going for drinks after work on Friday,
Sadly the only way to make up for other’s lack of manners, sometimes is to teach them by correcting them / telling them off.
This is YOUR NEWS… and you thereby are the one who should have the say on WHEN and WHO you choose to tell
(Now lets hope she’s got enough sense to keep her mouth shut IRL)
Post # 16
I think you need to edit the settings on your Facebook so that nobody can post on your wall until after you’ve made this news public. Someone will inevitably slip up.