Post # 1
So I totally just (figuratively) bit my husband’s head off for no reason. I’ve been trying so so hard to not drag him into the whole roller coaster of emotions I’ve been going through during these past couple weeks of pregnancy, but I failed. I apologized a ton and he said it was no big deal but he’s obviously pretty hurt by it 🙁
How has everyone else helped their partner understand pregnancy emotions? Did you blow up for no reason? Does it get better? I’m only 22 weeks. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
@CEtoSAHM: I don’t have any helpful advice……… At almost 13 weeks I have already had 2 freakout moments. I was sweeping one day and for some reason came to the conclusion that no one cared what I do to keep the house clean all the time (super irrational thought) and I started sobbing when Darling Husband tried to talk to me I flipped out. I appologized and he said it was ok but he is not looking forward to dealing with my crazy emotional outbursts for another 27 weeks.
Post # 4
Sorry – I usually yell at Fiance and I’m not even pregnant 😉
Maybe just try to count to 10 before speaking when you feel you are getting angry?
Post # 5
oh yesssssssss, my poor hubby has heard some f outbursts. I feel terrible afterwards but he understnads its really stessfull and hard being pregnant and we have CRAZZZZZZZZZZZZZZY hormones. dont beat yourself up about it, that just try to explain to him what your going through. honestly, i really think hormones are SO much stronger then we realize when were pregnant and sometimes anything can drive us crazy. lol.
Post # 6
Its bound to happen, I was a total cry baby and constantly on a emotional rollercoaster.
Just try to not take it out on him, when upset walk away until you can get yourself under control. And if you slip up be sure to apologize. 🙂
Post # 7
@CEtoSAHM: oh me too honey, tonight was rough. I was having a I feel like a cow, nothing looks awesome on me anymore, I feel like I cant do normal things anymore kinda day. I took it all out on him. I can’t apologize right now either because he just shuts down when I act like that. It’s not pretty.
I really dont have any advice for you other than to say you arent alone. I am 26 weeks and I have my moments dispite trying not to.
Hormones are something else.
Post # 8
Thank you so much bees!! This made me feel a lot more human and a lot less crazy! Some days it feels like I don’t even know who I am with all the hormones going on. Thanks for the tips too, I’ll try to take a step back next time. Do you guys try to be open with your SO or do you just try to squelch it? I’ve been trying to hide how emotional I’ve been, and maybe that’s why I let it all out tonight?
@panterapeach: My husband shuts down too. It’s like we feel bad in the first place, then we take it out on them, then they get all hurt, and we feel completely alone and misunderstood again. I hear you about the clothes– Anymore I feel like I’m outgrowing my maternity clothes (I think I tried 5 outfits on this morning and still felt ugly). Thanks for sharing your story, it really helped 🙂
@stargal34: It’s true about anything driving you crazy! I was trying to fill up a glass of water from the outside of the fridge and my husband kept opening the door and closing it (which stops the water flowing to the outside). It was his way of flirting, but OMG it was just not funny/cute to me tonight! My poor guy, he was just trying to be cheerful. How did you get your hubby to understand hormones?? I don’t know if it is because mine was raised an only child by his single father, but he does not understand the power of hormones at all…he thinks it’s all just mind over matter and that they’re used as an excuse. Which makes it extra hard to explain how I’m feeling!
@MarryMeTiffany: Lol, I do think guys must have their own secret countdown somewhere. Hopefully when they hold the baby all the bad memories of the past 40weeks just melt away 😉
Post # 10
@CEtoSAHM: I do it all the time… hate myself for it later, but thankfully Darling Husband is a trooper about it. He does hold a bit of a grudge though. I was already a super emotional person BEFORE getting pregnant, so I’m literally HORRIBLE right now. Let us just make it through these next 17 weeks please!
Post # 11
I had issues in my first tri with uncontrollable rage. If anyone did anything to piss me off I would get so angry I just wanted to hit something. Darling Husband did something one day I was so angry I couldn’t speak. I screamed rage and out. He came back an hour later and I was fine.
It can also get bad post partum. My oldest child was annoying me so bad I threatened to throw him out of a moving car. He is a teenager so maybe he is just better at pushing those buttons. We laugh about it now, I swear I am not evil 24/7. Just remind him it will all be over soon and there will be new frustrations for both of you.
Post # 12
I feel sorry for my husband. I get angry so easily now, and not just a little irritated…irrational I want to throw shit against the wall red faced angry. I’m a monster.