Post # 1

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Busy bee
Long story short: boy meets girl, boy falls in love but dumps the girl and the girl ends up marrying his cousin.
This is why my ex hates me and isn’t over me and still talks about me and tries to get ahold of me.
Today I got an email that a snapfish account had been created and I didn’t make it. I tried to get the account deleted and customer service said it was, but it’s not. They were not much help.
I discovered also my ebay was totally changed, number one being my email address. I went through the questions you have to answer to change it and they were hard and only people who were close to me would know.
The Ip is from his town.
I think it’s him?!
Previously he has cyberharassed me through etsy and cyberstalks me, adding me at all social networking sites.
SIL thinks I should maybe press charges? I don’t know if that is possible.
Ughh
Post # 3

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Busy Beekeeper
I would have someone investigate it. If that means you have to press charges, I would. That’s ridiculous.
Post # 4

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Busy bee
@AmeliaBedelia: So I should contact the police tomorrow?
Post # 5

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Helper bee
How did you know that ‘the IP’ was from his town? Where did you get that information from?
And yes, you can contact the police and he will be charged, if it is him.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
@BerryBerry: Oh while I was changing one of the passwords/email on something (ebay i think) they displayed who last changed it.
Post # 7

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Helper bee
Change ALL your passwords to something he will never guess. Add numbers to them so he’ll have a hard time figuing it out. You have to keep him out of your stuff!
And yes, talk to the police. If he did it then it is a criminal offense. I don’t think he’s hacked your computer, but he has managed to get into your ebay account by guessing your password. It’s still illegal, plus it’s harassment.
Even if it’s not him, it’s worth getting investigated in case it’s someone else messing about with identity fraud.
If you don’t want to involve police, just change all your passwords, change your IP address (your internet service provider can help you there) and get your husband to go kick his a**.
Post # 8

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Busy Beekeeper
@ThePrincessMaggie: I would.
I had an issue similar to this when I was in college and went to the campus police (as it was their jurisdiction technically) and got it all sorted out. It was scary. Plus, if it’s not him it’s someone else that is doing something they shouldn’t be.
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
Ewwww that’s so creepy!! I would totally report to somebody..the police? I would definitely say to change everything to something that’s unguessable for sure!! That is so weird..
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
On top of changing your passwords, answer those “security questions” with things that aren’t the real answers, that only you would remember. That way he can’t get your passwords via the “forgotten passwords” functions. I’m sorry this is happening to you– I hope you get it sorted ASAP!
Post # 12

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Busy bee
Thanks everybody. I did change all my passwords and stuff to even harder ones (I had decent ones already).
Unfortunately Darling Husband can’t do anything right now because he’s at Navy basic training 🙁 7ish more weeks
Post # 13

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Busy bee
Okay I’m bumping this because you bees have suggested I involve the police. I don’t know if it’s worth it because he is family and it would just break the family up (if it’s him) and I would cause “strife” in the family just like he said that I would before I married Darling Husband…even though he would be the one harassing me, everything would get blamed on me. I know this because after I started dating Darling Husband (awhile after the ex dumped ME) the ex’s mother started posting mean things on my facebook through her daughter’s account. And all of our mutual friends turned on me and I do not talk to them this day.
I get that it sucks that I started dating your cousin, but it wasn’t immediately after you broke up with me and, oh yeah YOU BROkE UP WITH ME.
Why does everyone just take his side even though he is the one giving me trouble?
I didn’t want to mention this, but he was texting me one night telling me what a horrible person I was and that I should die so I tried to overdose. I was in the hospital for about a week.
I just want him to leave me alone and get over it…. 🙁
Post # 14

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Buzzing bee
@ThePrincessMaggie: Clearly there is already “strife” in the family. I wouldn’t give a crap about it. As long as your Darling Husband is on the same page as you, I’d call the police. Harrassment is not okay and this guy needs to get a grip! He needs help!
Post # 14

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Honey bee
He’s harrassing you. Do you still have the text? Keep records of all this stuff. This family already sounds like a piece of work. Your wellbeing is more important than worrying about people who aren’t worth it.
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
Why would you want poisonous people like that in your life? Seriously — if they’re going to choose him (a crazed stalker) over you, then who cares?!
Maybe that’s just me, though. But seriously, stalking can get seriously violent seriously fast. I’d report it to the police.