- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Hi everybody,hope everyones ok,
OK,Im just a little bit at the point of pulling out my hair or sitting down and sobbing.So my Fiance and I moved in together 6 months ago, and I couldnt be happier living with him,BUT Im not happy where we are,which has put me in a little bit of a pickle.
Weve moved into a house which was pretty much a shell,its livable but not exactly “perfect home” material. The house is quite old so the house is always cold (and we cant afford to whack heating on all the time)it needs a lot of work to get it to the point where Im going to be happy,and the garden…I just dont want to go there.
The whole place has been neglected by its previous tenant,so its going to be hard work to get it how we both want it. Now this may be just me being lazy,but everywhere I haved lived previously has been basically ready to move into,modern and a brilliant experience.
Our rent is quite high,and although it is within our budget,we are currently living payday to payday(which I hate)and starting to struggle(it took a lot of work and money before we moved,swallowing quite a lot of both our savings) And although it is our first house together,it just doesnt feel like…home.
I am genuinely not happy here, I hate coming home knowing that we are struggling and this house is the reason.Its getting to the point where I dont want to be at home when my Fiance isnt there,because just being in the house depresses me. FI seems to be unemotional about the home thing,he`s pretty laid back about everything. ive looked at other properties tonight,in the same area,better insulated(so fewer bills)and just generally…more appealing.
If we did move we would struggle to get a deposit together,although I know my family would help out with that,but I just dont know how to approach the topic with Fiance,I havnt mentioned anything yet,
so my question to you guys is,1:would you move after putting so much into something,even though you are struggling
and 2:how would you approach the topic with FI? He seems comfortable here and I know he doesnt like upheaval,but I honestly want to talk to him about it…
Thank you so much for sticking with this guys, I wasnt sure where it should go so I popped this thread in lounge
Any genuine advice and moral support would be much appreciated.