Post # 1
Mine were here for the weekend and while we enjoyed hosting them, it was so stressful. My Father-In-Law is sort of sneaky and manipulative, and every time we get together, my Darling Husband ends up arguing with him. Arguing in that typical family way, in that it’s not a serious fight, but it causes stress. Father-In-Law is always trying to tell Darling Husband what to do, and Darling Husband resists. Father-In-Law acts this way because he still wants to be head of the household and be in charge. Darling Husband resents this because he’s a grownup and wants to be respected.
Well, while they were here, Father-In-Law takes me aside to another room and asks if I can arrange a shuttle service to take him and Mother-In-Law to the airport. Um, well Darling Husband already arranged his schedule to drive them back, so I don’t get it. Father-In-Law says no, he doesn’t want to impose on us, and he’d rather they take a cab. And he asks if I can arrange it, without telling Darling Husband. Um, what? So I’m supposed to go behind DH’s back and arrange a cab service, when he’s already arranged to drive them himself? It’s all ridiculous and I realize that Father-In-Law is just doing this to assert his own authority and refuse to be taken care of by his son.
WTF. Father-In-Law has acted this way before too, where he acts all nice to me to try to get me to take his side against Darling Husband. It’s so awkward, because I try to be polite to him, but I can’t take his side over DH’s.
To add insult to injury, I just discovered that my favorite mug is missing. Darling Husband says he gave it away to Father-In-Law because “we have too many mugs.” Okaaay….I read him the riot act and now he’s on the phone getting it back. WTF dude.
Post # 3
@mspartridge: My future in-laws are superly akward. When I am arround them they are nice and they seem to like me but they are still pretty odd people. For example my Future Mother-In-Law didnt come to SO 30th birthday which he celebrated in a nice restaurant with those near and dear…But nope, she said that she wanted to go on a holiday to a friend’s place instead (nothing was set in stone at this point and the invitiations were handed out WELL in advance). Turns out that she returned from her holiday TWO days BEFORE SOs birthday but still didnt bother coming. SO was fairly upset and I was really angry at her for hurting his feelings like that.
It gets better! She is now celebrating her birthday in some chalet but didnt give much notice in advance. We have already made plans for said weekend which cannot be cancelled. Going to her short-notice birthday involves travelling and she wants SO to be there. Actually, she said he is expected to go to his mothers short-notice birthday weekend! Best thing? She send an email to everyone of her children plus spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends to invite them BUT me! So apparently I am NOT invited. SO says it must have been a mistake in her part. Oh yeah… Sure! 🙁
Anyway, SO is a dutyful son and will go visit her on the Sunday of her birthday Weekend for a couple of hours. There is not much I can say but I think it is unfair! I even offered to take her out for Dinner for her birthday instead but nope… SO wouldnt be comfortable letting her down. As a side note, it’s not an “round” birthday like a 30th one, just an usual one.
Thanks for giving me a chance to vent! 🙂
Post # 4
@mspartridge: lol I feel like I’ve talked too much about this topic on other threads already.
Mother-In-Law is almost definitely suffering from borderline personality disorder. I’ve had some traumatic times from being around her and of course my husband has seen some her at pretty disturbing moments as well, sometimes it feels like she enjoys mentally torturing others or making them think they’re the crazy ones instead of her. The one thing I do like about her though is that she would cook for me once in a while, which is something my mom has never done for me because she doesn’t know how to cook. H and I both want Mother-In-Law to be happy, but she always finds something to be miserable about, and usually she takes it out on family.
Father-In-Law is okay, met him twice. Only this is he has a drinking problem and when Mother-In-Law pushes his buttons he can go from a zero to a ten emotionally. Then again she affects a lot of people that way.
Post # 5
@alaha: lol, it sounds like your Mother-In-Law is identical to mine. Boo to the double standards — she’s never there for his events, but expects us to drop everything to attend hers.
Post # 6
@MrsEdamame: It’s so, so annoying and it makes me increadibly mad… Not because of me but because of SO. He deserves better! But hey, for her grandaughter she will drop everything in a heartbeat! I really dislike her double-standards!