Post # 1
Originally I had wanted to have my wedding at this cute little chapel, but it held 1/6 of the amount of guests we hado. Then I wanted something historic but my Fiance doesn’t see the point in spending that much money on a ceremony site. Our reception venue does ceremonies but again he doesn’t want to pay the extra cost. Eventually he suggested his family church,it’s cheap, but I had never been there. I saw the inside just a few days ago and…it’s not a very nice looking church. The carpet is ugly the walls are just stark white and the aisle is extremely long.
I’m not religious in anyway,neither is Fiance but his family is. He keeps telling me to look at this place as just a building…but it’s just not a pretty building on the inside and I don’t know if I can make it work.
My old church was beautiful with dark wood,stained glass windows,and arched ceilings,but I’m no longer a part of the church since I’m not religious anymore.
I feel like I’m being too picky and I should suck it up and be happy I’m not paying a lot for it. But part of me feels like I’m compromising too much of my wedding in order to save as much money as possible. I’m my looking for a pintrest wedding at all,but I still want something nice looking.
And yes,Fiance admits the church doesn’t have a lot of character to it.
Post # 2
If neither of you are religious could something other than a church be an option? A park would be low cost and much prettier than a stark church neither of you really are thrilled about
Post # 3
A park would not be a bad idea except what if it rains?
Post # 4
I’m not religous either so I could never get married in an ugly church… perhaps a nice one like your old church due to the stained glass. Look into doing it there, some churches don’t require you to be a practicing member.
Do you have a historic library near you? Or other historic building? I got married outside but in the woods a bit, like a 10 minute walk. I wasn’t worried about rain as the trees give you coverage from really getting anything on you. Also the pics can be cute with an umbrella… maybe even a rainbow?
Post # 5
A park would be a nice place,but I’m afraid of rain. May is such an iffy month for weather.
I live in a city with a ton of historic places you can rent for wedding ceremonies but the prices are a little too much. There’s a mansion I’d want to rent but it’s 3 grand just for a ceremony and there’s not much for less. We don’t have a lot of wooded areas but that sounds very pretty.
Post # 6
Are there any local community centers for rent? Art galleries? Cool restaurants?
Post # 7
Do you have any photos of the church? Perhaps if you added some decor it would help.
Depending on the time of day, candles can add a romantic glow and are cheap. (hello Dollar Store!)
Or…perhaps you can do double duty with some of your reception decor and then have family move it from the ceremony to the reception afterwards? Like any flowers or other themed items?
If none of that would make you feel a bit better about it I agree with previous posters about parks or other venues to consider. Sometimes the courthouse itself has some beautiful rooms for ceremonies (depending again on how many people you have).
Additionally—find out from your reception location if you can get a discount on a ceremony location. Once you find out the cost, perhaps there’s something else you are willing to cut or adjust to save the money you spend on ceremony space? (cheaper cake…adjusted dinner menu….maybe limited bar like only wine/beer, if you’re having one…or seeing if the flowers you like are “in season” and maybe adjusting there).
If you haven’t officially booked the reception venue—maybe keep looking for a venue that offers both spaces in a lower price range? Or consider an “off day” like a Friday wedding for a lower rental rate?
I’m sure it will be beautiful no matter what!!
Post # 8
Our local parks have pavilions you can rent so you’d be OK in case of rain. Look into B&B’s too. There are a lot of historic homes that do little packages for weddings. You say you have many such houses in your area; I can’t imagine that ALL of them are 3K. Sure, some will be, but you should definitely check it out.
Do you want to look back and think meh when you see the pictures of your actual wedding celebration and feel meh on “just a building?” Some people aren’t sentimental so I get it, but I can’t stop checking out our guest pics of the first kiss and exchanging rings and all that already! If you can afford it, it’s worth spending at least some money on something you’re happy with. Doesn’t have to be fancy, just doesn’t sound like either of you care too much for this church.
Post # 9
It sounds like the church could be neutral enough for some decor to liven it up if the walls are bare. Unless the carpeting is neon colored, nobody will notice the flooring as long as you don’t draw attention to it with something like an aisle runner.
Post # 10
How much extra is it to have the ceremony at the reception location? I can’t imagine it would be that much extra. And this would likely cut down on transportation and parking issues and also decorations. I bet after you factor those things in, it’s not much more than the plain church would be after decorating that location.
Post # 11
I agree with PP and go to your old church and inquire about pricing. Although my husband and I are practicing Catholics, we never joined our parish but had NO issues having our wedding there, it just wasn’t required.