(Closed) Ugly Duckling Sibling?

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

AWW 🙁 You know my sister used to say this about herself and everyone is always telling her she was crazy. She looks different from the rest of us but she’s still very pretty and honestly I think sshe has a warped view of both herself and the rest of us. It’s not like we’re models or anything lol 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I feel like I am the ugly duckling too. My brother is tall, thin, muscular, blonde hair, blue eyes … yeaaaa. I am a ginger who has to work my butt off just to be an “average” size. Not to mention my brother is a genius and an amazing athlete. Some people just get all the good genes 🙂 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel ya. I’m the middle child of 3 girls. My older sister has olive skin and dark hair, I’m fair skinned and blonde and my little sister is the lucky one because she’s a gorgeous red-head. I always feel so AVERAGE next to my sisters, so very blah and i’m a full size 8 with big ole’ hips and my sisters have great bodies. But, I think we all feel that way because my older sister says I’m the pretty one and my little sister says I’m the smart one. So I think it’s just our perspectives on ourselves. EVERYONE is beautiful and the more we compare ourselves to others, the more we feel that we are lacking. So cheer up because you are BEAUTIFUL!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh heck yes. Growing up both my older sister and I were kind of awkward looking. She was a string bean with buck teeth and a mullet. I was rolly polly. She gets to her junior and senoir year of high school and suddenly gets a womanly figure and looks like a model. She is drop dead gorgeous, perfect figure, radiant smile and hair that would make a shampoo comercial chick jealous. I am still kinda rolly polly, and while I like to think I am at least averagly pretty, she will always be the “hot” sister.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@AmeliaBedelia:  yes, I def feel like the fat, ugly duckling 99.9% of the time. I have seen pictures of you though, you are GORGEOUS! I remember the first time I saw you picture I really thought you were a beautiful girl and NOT fat…

Post # 11
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I only have one sibling, a brother.  We are extremely close in age so its hard to say I’m the ugly duckling, but my views of life in general are so different from my family I feel like an outsider most of the time.  I love them and they love me, but its all the miscommunications, misuderstandings, and different views of the world that screw us up.  I’m sure everyone has felt this way at some point! Chin up beautiful…you’re great!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally understand where you are coming from. I don’t have any sisters, which I’m sure makes it much easier for me, but I have always felt like my brother is the good looking one, whom everyone loves. I mean, I don’t think I’m ugly, but I’m overweight and know that I’m not “attractive” to outsiders. Sighhh…but at the same time, we all put ourselves under a much harsher lens than anyone else does. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t have siblings but I used tofeel that way about my cousins. They are twin, naturally beautiful goddesses with figures to die for. I used to wish I could be like them and would secretly feel inferior. I found out one day that they felt the same way about me! I think that this really put things in perspective for me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I know that’s cliche but it’s true. I’m sure that your sisters are beautiful. And I am also sure that there are some people who think they are “okay” or “too skinny” or “weirdly shaped” or “odd looking”. Beauty is not universal and nobody has the market cornered on it. You are the IDEAL for many people. Looking like YOU is something that some people want to achieve. We all set our barometer of what is pretty. I think it sucks that you have chosen to rank yourself so low on that barometer. My mother always told me that the difference between an “average” girl and a pretty girl is confidence. If you want to feel inferior, go ahead. But that is a big load of baggage to carry every day. You can choose to feel mediocre and you’ll give off mediocre vibes and get mediocre results. Or you can embrace your unique beauty and choose to feel inferior to no one. Believing you are pretty has a funny way of convincing other people around you that you are pretty. You are gorgeous. You shouldn’t allow yourself to feel second to ANYBODY.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh girl I feel ya. I don’t have any siblings but I’m the “fat friend” that everyone’s got. My bridesmaids are freakin hotter than I am!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yep, I hear you too. My dad had a disastrous relationship when he was very young and ended up a daddy to a beautiful girl – my older half sister. She is pale, with long black hair and dad’s piercing blue/green starburst eyes and looks like she just stepped out of a fairy tale. It’s surreal to look at. Needless to say, she also got the height and skinny womanly figure too. 

When dad was a little older, he found his soul mate in my mum and then they had my elder brother and I.. My older brother takes after mum’s side with tan skin, brunette, killer tan and dad’s piercing blue/green starburst eyes. He’s tall and perfect frame,very athletic, loving and funny.All of my girlfriends would drool over him growing up (and still do!!). I often had girls try to be my friend just so they could get close to my brother!! He really should have been a male model and has been scouted many times. But the thing is, with all the attention he has received over the years (and continues to receive), he now suffers from depression, related to his anxiety in trying to meet people’s expectations all the time and being under constant surveillance. It was just too much pressure for him. He’s getting through it, with our love and support though. But it just goes to show how dangerous being THAT attractive can be.

Then there’s me, pale, brunette, brown eyes, not quite tall but not quite short and overall average looking compared to my older siblings. As I’m my dads second daughter and with the disasters that went on with his previous relationship, my extended family dote a heck of a lot on my half sister and constantly compare the two of us. Sadly, I inherited a skin condition from my Nana. It comes and goes depending on the humidity and is just on my upper arms, but there is no cure and I have never really been able to wear cute singlets or anything that shows off my arms as the New Zealand climate is quite a humid one (even my wedding dress is being planned around sleeves, just in case it flares up!) I’m incredibly self conscious about my arms – I don’t really like to wear singlets etc around my Fiance, I feel that bad about it. He knows I’m self conscious and I know he doesn’t judge me for it, but when it’s flared up it can be hard for me. It’s just another point my family have compared my sister and I on & there have been some horrible comments about it.

Over the years, I’ve found new ways of covering my arms, that allow me to feel sexy and confident. And really, that’s all we can do – accept our flaws and adapt with them. Don’t let how you feel become this huge all consuming part of your life. We all have bad days and yeah, we all have someone at some point who tries to bring us down or compare our looks and label us into a certain category. But we all have people who love us for who we are and that’s all that should matter 🙂

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