(Closed) Uh, excessive awkwardness.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t blame you for being upset. I don’t understand why people think it is okay to ask! I think it is so RUDE! I would never sit there and say to someone.. so am i invited or what? It puts you on the spot and it’s rude. 

I would tell you friend that you have over invited and as the RSVP’s come in and there is an open spot then they are welcome to come. I think you are totally justified in doing this and they shouldn’t be upset. If they are then it’s their fault for inviting themselves and bringing it up!! 

Post # 5
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry that youa re dealing with.  I dread when this moment comes up more often.  I have only had one friend ask me and I had to say we couldnt invite everyone but he could meet us out for the after party.  I felt like it was rude for me to say but it was also rude to ask. 

My fin does not care about the numbers at all and invites anyone and everyone.  It is rather annoying because we really did OVER invite and I am crossing my fingers that people don’t show.  I don’t get to invite some of the people that really mean the world to me because he did this.  UGH!

Post # 6
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would just always tell people that we’re having a very small wedding. Some people would understand, and others wouldn’t. But yes, it is a very awkward situation!

Post # 7
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m actually really surprised that this many people have asked you about it!!! You sound like you’ve handled things well… 

As for your friend who wants to bring a friend, that is just kind of tacky. I’d just have to tell her “sorry, i’d love to have her come but we’ve already set our guest list and unfortunately I just couldn’t invite her”.  

I usually just tell people that we’re having a small wedding (which we are) as soon as they bring up the wedding. It’s literally the first thing I tell them. 

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