(Closed) Uh-oh, I might want to change their dresses….

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?
    Keep the dress you already picked out of courtesy : (15 votes)
    79 %
    Change it if you want, they can sell the dress on weddingbee! : (0 votes)
    Other- please write below. : (4 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Can they be returned? Has anyone gotten alterations yet? It doesn’t matter – only a slight inconvenience for everyone as long as they can get their money back. If you want to change that badly and they can’t be returned, you should pay for the new dresses.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    The ebay one won’t come up for me.  Is there anyway to incorporate purple into the dress you already bought.  A tie around the waist or pashmina or . . . so they don’t have to worry about exchange but will still incorporate purple

    Post # 6
    Member
    2434 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    Unless you are going to buy back their dresses and resell them yourself, you can’t ask them to buy a second dress.  Re-selling Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses (even if they are unworn) is always done at a loss- nobody pays full price for a re-sold dress.

    So unless they are within the return window and you’re doing the returning- I’d say it would be REALLY inappropriate to ask them to purchase a second dress.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If they can’t be returned then I don’t think you should pick another dress.  There is no way they could sell them for anything close to full price.  

    Post # 8
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    if they can be returned i think it’s fine. if not, i don’t think it’s fair to ask them to buy two dresses.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If they can be returned thats fine, otherwise if you want to change you should buy the dresses back from the bridesmaids and take the financial loss for changing them yourself.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

     I agree with what’s already been said.  In fact, I’ll say, even if the dresses can be returned, I think you should be the one to collect them and go through the trouble of returning them.  If they can’t be returned, I think you should pay your BMs back, and try to sell the dresses yourself.  (From the sounds of it, you wanted them to sell them on WB.  But that is an inconvenience to them.  And Rosy’s right, they wouldn’t get full price.)

    It’s your wedding.  If you changed your mind on the dresses, it shouldn’t be a problem to change the dresses, as long as you pay for whatever the extra expenses would be, if any.  It certainly wouldn’t be fair to ask them to pay for more than one dress.  (But I’m not sure that you were implying that you would.)

    Post # 11
    Member
    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think its unfair to change the dress after they’ve purchased it. It’s an inconvenience to your BMs no matter how you slice it 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I don’t think you should expect them to get new dresses. Just find a way to work with the original ones

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I agree with what’s already been said.  In fact, I’ll say, even if the dresses can be returned, I think you should be the one to collect them and go through the trouble of returning them.  If they can’t be returned, I think you should pay your BMs back, and try to sell the dresses yourself.

    I agree with this!

    Post # 14
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @rosychicklet took the word outta my mouth. Changing your mind now WILL result in a financial loss. That loss has gotta be YOUR responsibility, or you’re treading of bridezilla’s stomping grounds!

    Post # 15
    Member
    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    Also, is there any other expense they might have already incurred, such as shoes, undergarments, jewelry that wouldn’t go with the new dress?  If so, you might want to be flexible on those things, or check to see if there are any problems there.

    Post # 16
    Member
    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t think you should ask the girls to buy another dress after they already bought them.

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