(Closed) Uh Oh, Neighbors Thought Our Giggle Fest was Domestic Violence…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

oh now, reminds me of the time i gave myself the biggest blackest black eye ever – and i  would tell people “the next time my husband tells me to get him a beer… i’ll do it faster”

people would be shocked and stunned for a second and then think about who i was married to and then burst out laughing at the thought…. hubby was horrified and begged me to stop 🙂

im glad its all good and good for your neighbours for making the call, sadly not all do phone when the situation is real

do you have a complex notice board or mailbox area??  if yes maybe a thank you card sticky taped for being caring neighbours and their concern – this way you get the message out with good grace


Post # 4
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t know, I guess I would rather have neighbors who are proactive like that than ignore domestic violence. (unless they called the police 4 or 5 times a week) I’m pretty sure since P wasn’t handcuffed and put into a police car, that there was probably a reason for it. I bet if he was, it would have been bad.

But like you said, there is a no tolerance on domestic abuse in your neighborhood, so your neighbors were just doing their part.

Post # 5
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I really do feel for you, but that is priceless!!

Post # 6
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would definetly take that as a compliment and feel safe. I think it’s good to know that your neighbors care enough to call the police on an incident like that (even thought it wasn’t the case).

There were tons of times with my daughter’s biological “father” that I wish someone would have called the police. It would have saved me a lot of bloody noses and black eyes!

Either way, I don’t even think you should write a note because then maybe the person who called will feel that anytime they have a suspicion they are wrong and wont call in the future. And of course I know you probably don’t need them to call for you but maybe someone else out there will need someone to over hear and call for them. (hopefully that made sense)

Post # 8
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

“play wrestle”

hahaha totally understand!   my hubby has a coin moneybox and he puts $1 and $2 coins into it (we opened on about a month ago and it has almost $4K in it)  – he even bought me a coin purse for me and there are some days he literally throws me to the bed to wrestle the coins from my hands – god only knows what our neighbours think


Post # 9
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@izziebear: I can totally see how you would be embarrased, but I agree with other folks who have said that its really good you have caring neighbors who would call. So many people have a really high threshold for calling the police, and having worked at a domestic violence agency I really wish more people would call.

If it was me, and I wasn’t sure who had called, I would send an email or something to the landlord, but be very careful to say that you weren’t upset, and infact are glad that you have such caring neighbors. I would say it a lot: “We’re not mad at all, and would rather people called…” kind of thing. That way, if the person who called does mention it to the landlord, they would know whats going on.


As I mentioned, I worked at a domestic violence agency for a while, and my job was to give presentations and teach classes at local schools and in the community. One morning, in a hurry, I opened the door to my car into my eye socket, and got not only a big bruise, but also a cut. I had to show up at work holding ice to my eye, and do several presentations that day. My co-workers thought it was hillarious (they all tended to have good sense of humor and irony), but I did worry I might have been sending a strange message during the presentations.

Post # 10
489 posts
Helper bee

@izziebear: First of all, you two sound so adorable. hehe It is good you have such attentive neighbors! I often wonder how much ‘activity’ my neighbors can hear. lol

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