Post # 1
Happy Thanksgiving, Bees! Hope all your feasts were delicious.
So, P and I got home from Thanksgiving festivities around 8:00 pm tonight to find that our heater has pooped out on one of the coldest nights of the year. It was frigid cold in our apartment so we quickly layered up our sweaters and tried to re-ignite our pilot light for some extra warmth – unfortunately, no dice. As I sat below the heater for a while, trying to figure out the problem, P came back into the living room with a glass of ice water. He jokingly traced an ice cube across my neck as he walked by, causing me to yelp in surprise. I scrambled to my feet and bear hugged him onto the couch and tried to put that same ice cube down his sweat pants. We were just messing around for a few minutes, trying to freeze each others’ buns off. We were both laughing from the cold until we both gave up, settled down, and started watching some television. The whole frosty adventure lasted maybe 2 minutes, and wasn’t exceptionally loud.
About 25 minutes later, we got a knock at the door, and we opened up to find 3 police officers! They told us that a neighbor had called, concerned about an incident of domestic violence. They quickly took P outside to question him, and an officer came inside to ask me what happened. I was really embarrassed, but told them the story. They kinda laughed it off, and didn’t seem too concerned. They didn’t bother with any sort of documentation, and were out of there in less than 5 minutes. We both apologized and said we would definitely keep it down in the future. Whoops!
I know our apartment complex has a 0 tolerance policy for domestic violence – and even though it was a false alarm on my neighbors’ part, I am totally concerned about our reputation around the complex now. I’ve been super quiet since the incident tonight, and P keeps cracking up, saying I’m being adorable and paranoid. I’m just hoping our landlord doesn’t think we’re terrible, abusive tenants! I especially don’t want her to reconsider our occupancy! Eeeps.
Just wanted to share. Ever have a false alarm cop call?
Post # 3
oh now, reminds me of the time i gave myself the biggest blackest black eye ever – and i would tell people “the next time my husband tells me to get him a beer… i’ll do it faster”
people would be shocked and stunned for a second and then think about who i was married to and then burst out laughing at the thought…. hubby was horrified and begged me to stop 🙂
im glad its all good and good for your neighbours for making the call, sadly not all do phone when the situation is real
do you have a complex notice board or mailbox area?? if yes maybe a thank you card sticky taped for being caring neighbours and their concern – this way you get the message out with good grace
Post # 4
I don’t know, I guess I would rather have neighbors who are proactive like that than ignore domestic violence. (unless they called the police 4 or 5 times a week) I’m pretty sure since P wasn’t handcuffed and put into a police car, that there was probably a reason for it. I bet if he was, it would have been bad.
But like you said, there is a no tolerance on domestic abuse in your neighborhood, so your neighbors were just doing their part.
Post # 5
I really do feel for you, but that is priceless!!
Post # 6
I would definetly take that as a compliment and feel safe. I think it’s good to know that your neighbors care enough to call the police on an incident like that (even thought it wasn’t the case).
There were tons of times with my daughter’s biological “father” that I wish someone would have called the police. It would have saved me a lot of bloody noses and black eyes!
Either way, I don’t even think you should write a note because then maybe the person who called will feel that anytime they have a suspicion they are wrong and wont call in the future. And of course I know you probably don’t need them to call for you but maybe someone else out there will need someone to over hear and call for them. (hopefully that made sense)
Post # 7
Thanks for the replies, bees!
I suppose you ladies are right, and I should feel good that my neighbors have each others’ backs and are just trying to keep one another as safe as possible. I guess it’s just a little embarrassing to have the cops come to your door after an ice cube fight – especially when you live with one of the most gentle dudes in town!
I guess it’s a little unfortunate because P and I love to play wrestle. This is kind of an embarrassing little secret, but we spend a lot of Saturday mornings running around, chasing each other with threats of tickling the other. Guess those days are over. I told P we need a big ol’ house in the country for any of that. And yes, on the weekends, we are seven years old.
Post # 8
hahaha totally understand! my hubby has a coin moneybox and he puts $1 and $2 coins into it (we opened on about a month ago and it has almost $4K in it) – he even bought me a coin purse for me and there are some days he literally throws me to the bed to wrestle the coins from my hands – god only knows what our neighbours think
Post # 9
@izziebear: I can totally see how you would be embarrased, but I agree with other folks who have said that its really good you have caring neighbors who would call. So many people have a really high threshold for calling the police, and having worked at a domestic violence agency I really wish more people would call.
If it was me, and I wasn’t sure who had called, I would send an email or something to the landlord, but be very careful to say that you weren’t upset, and infact are glad that you have such caring neighbors. I would say it a lot: “We’re not mad at all, and would rather people called…” kind of thing. That way, if the person who called does mention it to the landlord, they would know whats going on.
As I mentioned, I worked at a domestic violence agency for a while, and my job was to give presentations and teach classes at local schools and in the community. One morning, in a hurry, I opened the door to my car into my eye socket, and got not only a big bruise, but also a cut. I had to show up at work holding ice to my eye, and do several presentations that day. My co-workers thought it was hillarious (they all tended to have good sense of humor and irony), but I did worry I might have been sending a strange message during the presentations.
Post # 10
@izziebear: First of all, you two sound so adorable. hehe It is good you have such attentive neighbors! I often wonder how much ‘activity’ my neighbors can hear. lol