- 5 years ago
My Fiance and I are getting married in just over a year from now. We usually agree on the basic things such as politics, religion, etc. Mind you, we don’t have the same views, but we have an understanding of where each other stands on certain things. It works for us, and it allows us to be a lot more neutral to things we may not be familiar with or have certain opinions of…
With that being said, over this past Labor Day Weekend, my family decided to bring up the subject of having children. Well, we know we want them, we know we want to wait till we’re debt free (cars, credit cards, student loans, etc) in about three-four years before really trying to have them. I thought that was that?
Nope, my Fiance then was discussing at the picnic table that I will be a stay at home mom when we have children. He stated that once I am five months pregnant that I should quit working, prepare for the baby, and then I will be a stay at home mom until the child is of age to go to school. Also, if we have a second child that it will be the same; stay at home mom till he can go to school.
You should have seen my fucking face;
I just kept quiet because a) I needed to collect my thoughts on what just happened and b) I didn’t want to lash out in front of my family.
When we got home I quickly unleashed my fury. “WHAT THE HELLLLL DID YOU JUST SAY TO MY FAMILY?!”
He thought it was funny that I was mad! He then continued to point out that childcare is expensive and it would make sense for me to stay at home raising them, and that he thinks I would be stressed getting up, taking care of the child, getting ready, going to work, rushing to pick up the kid, rushing home, etc.
Ok? That might be true but it’s call parenthood. I’m not ready for it now, but maybe I will be when the time comes. I WANT to work! I love my job and my career path and I love being successful!!!
We put the debate to rest for the time being because this was so far off in our future and we didn’t know what our circumstances will be then.
It’s still in the back of my mind. Sorry, I just needed to vent. If you have advice, lay it on me.