Post # 17
we didn’t really have a budget. we just didn’t want to overpay for what we got. my centre stone alone was appraised at $25,000 but didn’t pay that so i feel we got a good deal. we got a deal on the additional diamonds too.
Post # 18
I love your set. Do you wear it all the time?
Post # 19
Carat size does not equal love! Poor men, they only think what society (and strategic ad campaigns) has been drilling into their heads. I was not set on a big ring and of course I compromised in size for a 3 stone but I just LOVED the look on me (and luckily I have short and relatively small fingers). Maybe suggest it for an anniversary or something after the wedding once you guys have time to save up. And if you love the ring you have now then there’s no rush to upgrade so quickly.
Yes, our jeweler gave us a great deal, too so that makes me feel better about it!
Haha yes, my Fiance didn’t mind going over *my* budget since he hadn’t really set a budget in his head but was still glad I was being price conscious
It’s beautiful! And for a great price!!! Yes, I will have it the rest of my life so that also makes me feel better about it. If I was going to splurge a little on something I’d rather it be this than something stupid! P.S. I do love that wedding band! Good choice. And your fingers look fine! haha
I know what you mean! Trying them on was a WHOLE different experience than looking online! And I helped pay too so we upped the budget a bit in the beginning (we essentially share finances anyway) but still went over that. But you just “know” it’s the right guy and if you didn’t regret him then you probably won’t regret the ring! haha
Post # 20
Yes, I’ve told him this, but he still has it set in his mind. I think it’s more like a “who has the biggest wang thing”, apparently, guys at his work were comparing carat size! LOL! I’ll just keep pushing it aside, hopefully a few years.
Post # 21
Lol I never thought of it like that! I doubt the guys at FIs work would do that so I don’t think he was concerned haha. Depends on where you’re from, too. Here in the south there definitely aren’t that many big carat sizes so that puts less pressure on us! But I’m not too worried about carat size as much as the look/style!
Post # 22
Fiance didn’t want to talk about prices in front of me when we looked at rings together. I have no idea if he had a budget in mind, but I know my setting was expensive. I told him that I didn’t expect him to spend anywhere near that amount on a ring for me, and he just laughed and said “okay babe” and picked it for me anyway.
Post # 23
There really isn’t any HUGE carat sizes here, but I got a .50 total for e-ring and band. The boys at my FI’s work just have nothing to do I guess. They compare everything! [oh my!]
Post # 24
We didn’t exactly have a “budget” but he proposed a dollar amount that was quite a bit higher than what we actually turned out to need to spend to get the ring of my dreams (He had anticipated that I needed a larger center stone than actually looked best, and also wondered if he should subscribe to the 2 or 3 month rule, which was preposterously too much). We did search and haggle quite a bit because we didn’t want to pay the enormous markup that tends to be on jewelry (for example, the first jeweler that was able to source the center stone we have now simply asked for too much, so we just walked away, thinking we’d never see that stone again, funnily enough someone else got it for us but at a more reasonable price), but you know what, it still cost a freaking heck of a lot.
Because we wanted something really really beautiful, we didn’t compromise on any quality factor on it, and as a result, for the size it is, most people would never assume it cost as much as it did (people are walking around with 2 caraters for less, mine is not even close to that size), which I kinda like the discreetness of, but yeah, it was a painful amount (for me. He’s a bigger spender than me and very generous, so he didn’t mind at all). But for me, the idea that one little item can be that expensive, it was painful. One factor that annoyed me is that even though we got it substantially below retail (and it has a very flattering “replacement valuation”), we of course still had to pay more than fair market value, so we did lose some money just by “driving it off the lot”, as they say. It will increase in fair market value over time (already has a bit), but cautious-spender me was grumpy about that.
I think no matter what your budget and strategy, the engagement ring almost always feels expensive to the couple getting it. That’s just a part of it, which is too bad, since what it symbolizes is not really related to that. A future husband should be able to show his effort or generosity of spirit in other ways.
Anyway, I’d generally say stay in the range you pre-determined as affordable, I don’t recommend going into debt for something as frivolous as jewelry, but what’s done is done, and $1000 extra is hopefully something you guys can make up for fairly quickly.
Post # 25
Yeah I know what you mean! The prices are crazy and discouraging. But I LOVED this ring in the store and Fiance said it looked so perfect on me and he knew it was the one (which is not something I expected him to say). And, as I said, the extra money we spent isn’t going to break the bank by any means, but I was just disappointed to not be able to find something in budget! I was wayyyyy more concerned about the price than my Fiance so maybe he planned on spending more anyway (he knows me too well haha). But as others said, I will be wearing it forever so in the end the extra money will hopefully be well worth it. We shall see come Monday!
Post # 26
We didn’t really have a budget – we found one I liked, and then he decided to up the carats (from .5 to .75) when he bought it. I know what it cost because I had to put it on my homeowners insurance – it was MUCH more than I would have expected.
Post # 27
We didn’t officially have a budget. I wanted a forever stone, and we’re both rrather frugal, so we spent not a lot of money (+/- 10,000). Wedding bands will probably cost close to that when it’s time to buy them…
Post # 28
Definitely went over on ours. We originally planned on spending no more than $1500. When we went to Kay to just look at some rings Dana Augustine was there having one of their restyling events. We were just looking around & the next thing I know I was trying on some of their settings. The Fiance picked out a couple that he liked & I ended up falling head over heels in love with one. He insisted that no matter what he wanted to make sure that I’d have a ring that I’d love forever. My sparkly went home with us that night & it ended up being almost $9000 instead the budget of $1500. Totally his idea though, not that I’m complaining 🙂
Post # 29
thank you. no, i don’t wear my full set all of the time. if i am going out, yes, but if i am just going to run errands (home depot, groceries), usually just the eternity band with the plain band. i love that combo. it’s casual with bling.
Post # 30
I voted Yes but didn’t read your poll properly :-). We spent about $600 – $700 over budget but I’m happy we did that. I wish we spent about $1,500 more (on top of $700) than budget to get a bigger center stone! LOL!
Post # 31
I love that look also! I hope to have a similar band look soon!