(Closed) Uh-oh…I thought I made it clear who was invited.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

you are not wrong at all

someone’s got to bite the bullet and tell your sister she can’t bring the kid

Post # 4
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

You are not in the wrong!

Stand tall and don’t back down. Tell your mom your sister can not bring her child!

Post # 5
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that this should be dealt with ASAP if she is traveling. This way, she can plan to not buy a plane ticket/make hotel accomidations if needed. I thinkthat you did everything that you could on your end, but now someone will need to tell her. If you are not close, could your mom give her a call?

Post # 7
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You’re not wrong at all.

Stay strong and let your mom know that your sister cannot bring her child.  

Please do not feel bad about this.  THEY are the people who are being horribly rude.

ETA:  Make sure that you explain what you just said- it’s not about the money, it’s about the fact that you’re having an adults only event and others will be upset if you let her bring your neice.

Post # 8
1124 posts
Bumble bee

You’re not wrong and I think you need to directly tell her that only her and her partner were invited because you are having an adults only event.

Post # 11
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@cosmocity: I wouldn’t worry too much, you sound super sweet and it’s rude of your family to put you in this position. Your mom should have told your sister immediately that it’s an adult wedding. You definitely need to stand your ground and say there has been a misunderstanding and as much as you want your niece to be able to enjoy your day, it’s not fair for your guests and what you have been planning. It’s an adult only wedding and your sister needs to follow the rules as well. You’re right, its not about the money. Maybe say you would love to come visit your neice and the rest of her family sometime after the wedding? Good luck to you!

Post # 13
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 1999

How annoying! I’d tell my sister, “Tough beans, no kids allowed. How is it fair you can bring your kid and no one else can bring their kid?”

Who is their right mind does that without asking the bride/groom first?


Post # 14
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just tell her sorry but her daughter is not allowed to come.  Let her know that you had to decline allowing other children to come and that if you were to allow her to bring her daughter, that it would be rude to every one else.  If she has a problem with it, too bad.  And tell her it has nothing to do with money, that this is what you guys have decided and that you sorry, but that’s how it is going to be.  ANd if she gets mad that’s too bad, because this is yuor wedding.

Post # 16
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@cosmocity: If it were me, I’d leave off the last part. I would be so nervous that sister would “ignore” the rules and bring her anyway if she’s in the same town.

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