(Closed) Uh… where are all my RSVPs?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I wold totally recommend calling them too… our RSVP date was Friday so I’m giving them until Wednesday to get to me and then I’m making calls.

Post # 18
41 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

yup… my due date came and went and HALF of the people on the invite list didn’t respond…. I feel your pain. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Post # 19
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

once that rsvp deadline hits I would suggest you start pounding your cell phone, tell them upfront you need to start ordering linens etc and need an accurate head count, then they will stop procrastinating, its hard to plan…put your foot down and start calling them up you have planning to do sister!



I sent my invitations our 4 months ago, I have everyone back except for one as soon as it hits the deadline I’m calling her 59 are coming I have one more left and 5 weeks to go, call me compulsive, I sent an e-mail explaining I will be very busy and on call one month before the wedding so no room for procrastinators, everyone understood and sent tthem in right away, mostly family and close friends


in addition I will be sending an e-mail 10 days before to get an accurate head count in case people back out I am leaving nothing to chance


one friend had 10 no shows she lost $700 plus tax

another friend had 10 no shows and lost $1800

I am leaving nothin to chance at $246 a head I am not willing to have no shows or those who have to change their minds last minute
be firm!



Post # 20
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our due date isn’t until September 8th but we only receive 1 or 2 a day.  I anticipate many who will forget to send the card back – my Fiance is notorious for doing this and now i am so embarrased by ever being late for someone’s wedding RSVP. As others have said, people don’t understand what is put on hold (so much!) until you have an accurate head count.  I am going to email people a few days before the due date and then the calls will begin.

Don’t stress..it’s normal. Just breathe, try calling people when they are at work so there’s no awkwardness of putting them on the spot.  A VM is a nice and effective reminder.

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