(Closed) uhhh… so the back door…

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Back door?
    yes : (63 votes)
    17 %
    no : (255 votes)
    70 %
    other : (45 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    617 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I say no.  no..no.no.  It hurt me SO bad.  It just doesn’t turn me on at all.  I know it does to some people-most of my friend in fact, but it is just NOT for me.  I have tried it and it just feels so awkward/unnatural to me.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    I haven’t had the guts to try it even though the hubby has been begging for a good 6 months now :/

    Post # 5
    Member
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Well, I chose ‘other’. I’ve done it, wouldn’t be opposed to doing it again, but do I seek it out- No.

    Post # 6
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It isn’t something I love, and Fiance isn’t really into it, so we don’t.

    But if he enjoyed it more, I would be fine with it. Not every sex act needs to be my favorite to make it into the repertoire. I have found, though, that it is terrible if you don’t spend a ton of time in, ahem, prep work. It takes a lot of gentle work to get your muscles back there to relax. And that is work your sex partner has to be committed to, I’m not talking kegels. You CAN NOT go 0 to 60. Most men who watch porn seem to think you can, but it ISN’T TRUE.

    Just a public service announcement on that. Wink

    Post # 7
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    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Uh never tried it and honestly I never think I will..especially after watching Zack ans Mirni make a porno lol. I know it’s just a movie but OMG that image has scarred me for life

    Post # 8
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    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    absolutely not. been there done that and guess what ladies? we dont have a prostate! lol so yeah whats the point?

    Post # 9
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Negative. I got issues getting stuff to come OUT of my butt, I don’t need stuff going in =]. Darling Husband has told me he never wants to do that, so we’re both on the same page.

    I had a cousin try it and she gave me all the graphic details. After that, NO WAY. She said it was AWFUL and you had to go so slow her Darling Husband got limp on her and it was just awful, like a bad exam, and that it’s much better to just use toys and be creative.

    Post # 10
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Ok i’ll be the first one to say that I really enjoy it.  I’ve done it with a few different people, (including FH obviously), and it has always been very enjoyable for me as long as they do the work, (like Monitajb said).  Just like regular sex it wasn’t something that was good the first time.  It definitely took 1 or 2 times to figure out what works for me but once I did…I really REALLY enjoyed it.  I know women don’t have a prostate but honestly, sometimes it feels better for me than regular sex.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The boy has never expressed ANY interest in the back door and I am perfectly happy keeping it that way Wink

    Post # 12
    Member
    3587 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ve done it a few times, the first time (with someone else) I didn’t enjoy it. With my SO, I liked it. Like monitajb said, prep work helps!

    Post # 13
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    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree completely with Miss BooBoo and also chose other…

    Post # 14
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    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I voted other – because I would have to say I enjoy a little action back there but have never had full out intercourse back there… but a little tease turns me on! Sorry if TMI!

    Post # 15
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    598 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Nooooo way!!!  One time we were having intense sex and it slipped out and just poked the outside of my anus and it hurt like HELL!!  I screamed and then I started laughing while tears were coming out of my eyes!!!  It was really funny that I started crying but it really hurt!!

    I told my FH in the beginning of our relationship that I wouldn’t be opposed to it with my husband and now that we are getting married I am regretting ever saying that cause I’m really going back on what I said…especially after the slip incident.

    I’m with ejs4y8, I have a hard enough time getting things out…  My anus is a one way!!

    Post # 16
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    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i’m so on the fence about this. i always seem to think that i’ll enjoy it but when it actually comes down to it, i realize that was not a great assumption. 

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