(Closed) uhhh… so the back door…

posted 10 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Back door?

    yes

    no

    other

  • Post # 92
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I prefer a little bit of..outer stimulation there to full on penetration, but I’ve done it, I’ve liked it, I’ll probably do it again. Probably not for a while, since my husband and I had a bona fide “slip” moment a few weeks ago…doggy style, and he missed…sorry if Too Much Information…it wasn’t gentle and I was immediately in tears. He felt absolutely awful, and I know him well enough to know it wasn’t just an “Oops, it slipped (wink wink nudge nudge)” thing. But properly done (i.e relaxing, plenty of lube) I’ve found it can be plenty enjoyable, if not my first choice. I also find I’m more willing to do it if I’ve recently showered. 

    Post # 93
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Okay I have to chime in… I am one of the odd ones out that voted yes. My DH begged me for about 3 years before I finally gave in. It was pretty painful the first couple of times, but after that I really liked it. I know women don’t have a prostate gland, but it directly hits the G spot (TMI!!).  Seriously though you needs tons of patience and lotsa lube!

    Post # 94
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    Helper bee

    never really tried it all the way, but i would love too, idk but its turns me on lol , but i cnt becuase of religious reasons, and the SO loves it !

    Post # 95
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’ve tried it a couple of times, once with an ex and once with Fiance. Both my ex and Fiance LOVED it. For me, it didn’t hurt but it wasn’t good either. And I found it really hard to relax and even try to enjoy it, because I was so self conscious about any potential… mess. You know what I mean! There was no mess either time, but worrying about it is enough to make me say no thanks to future experiments.

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    @veganglam: I thought it felt like that too! It felt like I was taking an endless dump, which was not a very sexy feeling! I’m really curious to hear more from the bees who do enjoy it, how they learned to like it!

    Post # 96
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I never really was that crazy about it, then was anally raped several years ago. 

    If I had enjoyed it before the assault, I probably would have done it again, but it’s just not worth being reminded of the rape and going through those feelings again.

    Post # 97
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have to say that I enjoy it, hahaha. It’s so funny because I would never tell anyone I know that I like it. But yes, I do like it, and it does turn me on, and sometimes I enjoy it more than regular sex. Don’t get me wrong though, I would never give up regular sex, haha.

    But if you would of asked me this a few years ago, probably even a year ago, I would tell you no way in hell would I ever do it, haha. Never say never, haha. I agree though that it did take some time for me to get uesed to it, and no way could he of just forced himself in there, cause that would of def. hurt me and we would never of done it again, because that would of been a deal breaker for me with the back door. It is important to make sure you are relaxed, and I had a problem with this before. I would always tense up, now I let myself relax, and it is fine, but it did take some prep work, haha.

    Hahaha really I can not believe I just told everyone on here this, but oh well, it’s cool.

    Post # 98
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    ginnyc– That is horrible, and I am so sorry. 🙁 

    Post # 99
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My Fiance has mentioned it ONCE and I guess the look on my face told him to never bring it up again. It totally grosses me out to even THINK about it so I could never do it. Some people may like it but I couldn’t handle it EVER.

    Post # 100
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    ive only been with 2 guys in my life and my first loved this and to be honest the first time it happened i was shocked and angry and i wont call it rape but he never asked, we never spoke about it, he never took his time or used lube – now being more confident about myself i wish i said no no and no again (btw i faked every time with this guy and never had a O)

    now my hubby who i adore and took the time to please me has never asked for it, i mentioned it once (because i thought it was a guy thing) and he said “nope, theres sh*t up there” and in unclenched with a sigh of relief

     

    Post # 101
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Lube, Lube, Lube!  And have a partner who knows what he is doing. The first time I really enjoyed it, I was in Amsterdam with Fiance (and enjoying the local….delicacies…) so I was very relaxed.  And like a PP said, start with vaginal, have a few O’s and get relaxed, then bust out the lube.  And yes, it is possible to O with just your backdoor filled!  🙂

    LUBE, LUBE, LUBE!   

    Post # 102
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ve tried it twice before and didn’t like it.  It didn’t hurt too bad, but it wasn’t sexy and didn’t turn me on at all.  And DH isn’t into it which is just fine with me!

    Post # 103
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Love it, though it doesn’t happen as often as it should.

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