Post # 1
Hello bees! I have a little dilemma.
My mom and I just went antique shopping for my wedding, my theme is vintagey/romantic/whatever else I like, lol. So we’re just looking for an old suitcase for guests to put cards in as well as a unique ring box for photos of my ring.
Anyways, we came across this B-E-A-UTIFUL dress that I was thinking of tearing apart and adding to my dress bc I didn’t thnk it would fit me and it was such a cheap price. We thought it would be fun to try it on but my mom didn’t think it would fit me….and what do you know, IT FITS LIKE A GLOVE. My mom is so in love with this dress you guys don’t even know. She is filipino so it has a similar look to a traditional filipino gown.
I am having two weddings, one in Georgia (where I’m from) and one in NZ (where i’m moving to & where my fiance’ lives/is from). My Georgia wedding is in October and NZ one is in December. I was planning on altering my original dress by adding on a sheer sleeve that I just slip ontop of my dress (picture below is my inspiration..dress by the amazingly talented Veluz)
and then I was going to just remove it for the NZ wedding to make my dress a bit different. This is my original dress (I would wear it without the sash since I’d be doing the add on the top & I’m altering the neckline to be a smoother sweetheart)
and this is my new gown I need padding for the front O_O.
The wedding in NZ is this location
Now…my problem is…I was planning on wearing my original dress (as is) with a sash added on to kind of make it more relaxed since it’s at the beach. But, now that I have this new dress, my mom says I should wear it to my NZ wedding but to me it doesn’t seem beachy…or should I just not care and do whatever I want? I was content having one dress and just doing the sheer sleeve add on and then just taking it off and adding a sash for the other wedding.
sorry this is so long 🙁 What do you ladies think I should do? Or is this post pointless because my new dress isn’t as pretty as I think it is? hahah. I would probably do something about that big bow on my butt and take down the poofyness of the sleeves…I might even omit them?
Post # 3
I don’t know which dress you should wear when, but that new dress is very cool. Very unique indeed. If I could make a couple suggestions though to update it a bit? I would remove the sleeves and the bow attached to the train. Just my opinion though. Otherwise, I really do think it’s a super cool dress.
Post # 4
They are both very beautiful.
I must say i love the back of the second dress, and if vintage is what you are aiming for you have it.
Post # 5
@lastminutedetails: yeah I mentioned in the post that I would probably remove the sleeves and the big bow, seems to out date it too much but my mom keeps insisting it’ll “ruin the beauty”…. -_-
Post # 6
@PeachyKiwi: I think this is something worth holding your ground against your mom for – I think removing the sleeves and the butt-bow was make it 1000 times prettier, and really highlight the pretty vintage details. If you don’t, the sleeves and the bow will get all the attention, not you!
Post # 7
I’m not a fan of the new dress. It’s so drastically different from your first dress too. I would stick with your original dress.
Post # 8
That second dress is a beauty, I would for sure remove the sleeves but other than that I htink its great, looks like at 1940’s War era dress… its gorgeous! Your original dress is very pretty too but modern and popular, its not one of a kind like the second one…..
Post # 9
What a very cool, vintage dress. I say wear both dresses. That way you get both of best worlds, and once you make your alterations to the vintage dress maybe you’ll only want to wear that one! I love the back of the vintage dress, the fake pearls hanging from the neck line. WOW!
Post # 10
You look very pretty in both dresses, but honestly the second dress is absolutely stunning. I have never seen anything like it. I love it as it is! ( I agree with your mom about the sleeves.)
Having said that, you should of course wear whatever you want–whatever makes you feel the most beautiful and stunning. 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for your opinions! 🙂
Just wanted to clarify that I’m not getting rid of any of the dresses, the first one I am definitely wearing to my first wedding, I’m just wondering if the second dress is hideous or not suitable for the second wedding in New Zealand (or if it should matter). The second dress was such a steal that I didn’t care if I didn’t end up using it because I’m sure I could find it a new home if I needed to. (afterall, my intentions were to cut it up, haha)
Post # 12
@PeachyKiwi: The second one kind of reminds me of the 80s. That said, I think a great deal of that could be mitigated by changing the sleeve style and removing the bow. The detailing on it is really wonderful! If you updated the new (vintage) dress, I wouldn’t even bother wearing the old dress. It just looks kind of plain compared to the vintage. (Not that the old one isn’t pretty, but wow! That detailing!)
Have you considered adding a crinoline to the vintage dress? They make crinolines for trumpet/mermaid style gowns, and I think that would be a good update as well.
Post # 13
@EffieTrinket: Yeah I get that 80’s feel with the sleeves & bow. I’m just in love with the detailing and the uniqueness of the dress. Well since I have two weddings I figured I’d go ahead and stay with my original plan of the first one and then have this surprise vintage one for the 2nd wedding (since I had told everyone I’m not wearing a different dress for the 2nd reception).
I was considering adding crinoline to the second dress since it does lay a bit flat, but it’s SO short, I’d have to find some really flat shoes. I’m afraid the crinoline would bring it too high since I’m already pushing it without any shoes. Do you think adding some fabric under it to give it length and then adding crinoline would look bad? If I remove that bow maybe I can take the train off since it’s a hook on and use that fabric to add some length?
Post # 14
@PeachyKiwi: I don’t think adding crinoline would affect the length too much–that’s the sort of thing you could try out without actually committing to it. If you decide you need more, adding some from the bow might work, or you could use some lace–or you could just let a bit of the crinoline show, sometimes that can be pretty. But this is pretty far outside my area of expertise, so you should probably ask a seamstress what she thinks. Maybe another bee has made an adjustment like this to her dress?
Post # 15
I love BOTH your dresses….and I’d definitely use the new dress as your NZ dress. BUT…..get rid of the sleeves and the butt-bow. After that – STUNNING!
Post # 16
I agree with others, once the bow and sleeves are removed… it’s a beauty for your NZ wedding.