(Closed) UK and Irish Bees – What do you think about a Thursday wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

You may lose some people who can’t take a day off. You may lose some people who’d want to take Friday off too.

it might end earlier or scale down earlier in the night as some folk might need an early night if they have to work Friday.  

id still go!

so I guess you have to figure out how you feel over the potiential “no” rsvps and the chance it MAY be a slightly less boozy/earlier ending reception.

Does that help at all?!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

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thegingerbride:  I agree with UK-bee. I’d probably still go if I could take the time off but I’d most likely not take the Friday off as well so would end up leaving earlier than on a different day of the week.

Eta: I actually work at a school so wouldn’t need to book holiday at all but I imagine most of your guests don’t have that luxury

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Post # 4
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Busy bee

Agree with the above. Some may drop out due to having to use a holiday to attend your wedding, others may be reluctant to stay late or let their hair down as they know Friday looms! 

Very close family should be there, I can’t imagine them nit using a holiday up to celebrate with you, it’s extended family and friends that may find it harder to commit to attending. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

As long as they have decent time to book it off it should be fine. You may get some declines from people who cant take time off work but most close family and friends would make sure to get time off. Were having a weekday wedding and have a 100% yes rsvp rate but our wedding is small so its just close family and friends. I think a thursday wedding would work- I would take the thursday and friday off and have an extended weekend. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

If it was a very close friend or family member I would go. For anyone else I probably wouldn’t. My Fiance is a self employed IT consultant so taking a day off work means a loss of income – a Thursday afternoon wedding would probably mean two days off since work with a hangover is a ‘no no’ and that would be quite a price to pay for a wedding of someone we aren’t very close to. Being a guest at a wedding is already expensive without losing income too. 

My Fiance and I were both really keen on getting married at a lovely place we go on holiday to most years (in the UK, but not particularly easy to get to). It was available and considerably cheaper than venues closer to home and it is somewhere we really love. When we looked at the logistics of getting everyone there and finding accommodation etc it became pretty obvious that a lot of the people we really wanted to share our day with would not be able to attend and for those who did go it would be quite costly. We decided that for us the most important thing was being surrounded by the people we love so we’ve booked a venue that is much more convenient for guests.  

I think you need to consider what’s most important to you – do you want a big wedding with lots of people there?  Or something smaller with just those you are closest to? Are you hoping for a party atmosphere through the evening/into the night or something more subdued?

Is there a huge rush to get married this year? or could you wait until next year and get the venue on a Saturday and have it all?

Post # 7
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Newbee

I think I’d only do it for family or really close friends.  I’d book the Friday off too and I’d need plenty of notice so that I could arrange the leave with work.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’d be happy to go but I would book both days off or at least the thursday and friday morning (if I lived in the same area as the wedding) . I would need plenty of notice as in my work only one person can be be off at one time. 

I think just be prepared as others have said that you may get a few ‘no’ rsvps due to it being in the week and most people work weekdays and they may not be able to get the time off and it could finish a tad earlier if people who live close by have decided to go to work the next day.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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thegingerbride:  Well, people would be looking at taking a day off work, maybe two if they want a duvet day to recover from the hangover (or is that just me! lol) but I don’t see an issue with it. Generally if I have been invited to a wedding it is because I am close enough to the couple that I wouldn’t mind taking holiday and also, weekday weddings are cheaper so I would respect their choices. Last year I went to a wedding on a Monday. I didn’t drink because I was working the next day, but the company and the music was so fab it didn’t matter.

Post # 11
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Newbee

I’m irish, our wedding is a Thursday… we have been to weddings on Mondays, Wednesdays, Saturdays… The people who want to go will go! Those who don’t are missing out on all the craic ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

In in NZ but we seem to do things more like you English and Irish bees rather than like the American bees. My wedding is on a Thursday. It’s a significant date to us. I’m giving people plenty of notice though, so you should probably decide quickly and let everyone know. My wedding is next June but I’ve already started telling people. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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thegingerbride:  Hi. I am having a Thursday wedding here in England. I say go for it.

I only have a 8 month engagement (because I’m 40 so can’t wait around) so it was the only day I could secure my dream venue. Everywhere else felt like a compromise or would have cost a lot lot more for a Saturday anyway. Saturdays often cost nearly twice as much- it’s ridiculous. I think people these days understand. I have been to lots of Friday weddings.

I’ve sent out Save the Dates but no invitations yet. So far I’ve had one couple decline. I am really sad as they are amongst the friends I most wanted to be there, and funnily enough they also had a Thursday wedding, but they both have very high flying careers and inescapable work commitments (not just ‘busy’ but booked to be travelling internationally or hosting 1000 person conferences). I expected some drop-out but that was really disappointing. However, I think most other people will come. My parents’ friends are all either retired or have a lot of annual leave/sway in their companies. If you know lots of freelancers/self-employed people, that also helps.

The Thursday wedding I attended myself was great fun and I enjoyed taking a long weekend. Initially I was slightly annoyed but it was such a great wedding, one of my favourites.

I would advise to try a half term/school holiday if you can, especially if your friends/cousins have kids.

But don’t be put off. The really fun loving people and the ones who want to support you will come.

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