(Closed) UK and Irish Bees – What do you think about a Thursday wedding?

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Post # 16
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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thegingerbride:  Yeah they were both teachers and I think they were fitting it into the Easter holiday from school so were pretty restricted with dates. It was still a lovely wedding and a lot of fun to attend.

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

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thegingerbride:  I wouldn’t be thrilled, as both OH and I would have to take at least one day off, and realistically 2 if we actually wanted to let our hair down, and OH has very little time off that we prefer to use for holidays abroad. We would only realistically attend if it was a really close friend, or an immediate family member (ie sibling).

If you are OK with people not attending (including those you are close to, as some people may simply not be able to get the time off), and won’t be ‘upset’/’disappointed’/let it affect your relationship with them, and are also OK with it probably not being a particularly late/wild night, then go for it. Personally for us we didn’t consider any day other than a Saturday, as it was important to us not only that everyone was there and that everyone could really let their hair down, but also that those close to us weren’t inconvenienced/made to take time off because we’d chosen to get married.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

I’m a UK bee and attending a Thursday wedding this August. DH will be an Usher and it is a close friend so there was no debate of whether we would attend and I have gladly booked the Thursday & Friday off work, and may book the Wednesday afternoon off too. The wedding is 3 hours from where we live so we need to allow time for travel both ways.

They booked very early and it is a specific wedding venue so open to weddings on any day of the week, therefore it has been assumed by most that it was a cost saving exercise. This has prompted a few snarky or just general moany remarks that the guests have to sacrifice 2-3 days holiday to save the bride & groom money! I was slightly put out at first myself since I have a big out of continent holiday and also a European break booked this year so my holidays are quite limited. However as it happens it falls on our 1st wedding anniversary weekend so I’m excited to have a long weekend to celebrate their wedding and also our own anniversary on the other days.

One good thing about having a mid-week wedding is only the people who really care (excluding those who literally can’t have a Thursday off work) will make the effort to attend, which makes for a beautiful, special day.

Post # 19
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2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

If you were one of my closest friends I would try to take time off but this year that just wouldn’t be possible. There’s a lot of other things happening that I need my leave for and I’d feel awful about not attending. Sometimes people who would desperately want to be there just won’t be able to make it. It doesn’t mean you’re not important enough, it just means I don’t have that time. Even if you asked how many days I had and thought I had a lot remaining, it’s all being diverted to somewhere else already. Occasionally the people you want there just won’t be able to make it and that isn’t necessarily weekday specific. My partners grandmother isn’t able to travel, she just can’t do it. One of his oldest friends, their grandfather is 80 and can’t make our wedding. We are having a Saturday wedding in February and gave a years notice, it’s just one of those things.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

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thegingerbride:  That’s a really good attitude to have, at the end of the day you’ll be husband and wife and that’s all that matters! 

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