Post # 1
We have an appointment for Friday 19th to give notice. We’re nervous! I called yesterday afternoon to ask a question about my driving licence (which I’ll be using as proof of address) and the woman was quite rude. Not doing much for my nerves haha.
I know they ask date of birth, occupation and address (then ask the same about FI). I’ve read they ask questions about your father though? Me and my father are not on good terms. Will they put him on our marriage certificate? I’d rather he wasn’t tbh. Also, why do they ask occupation? I’m currently not working due to mental health issues in the last couple of years but am a student. I think they ask for previous employer? Will they contact them for any reason? I feel a bit iffy about it if they do because I was very unwell when I left my previous job.
How long does the whole thing take?
I keep panicking, feel like they’re going to tell us we can’t get married or something haha.
Afterwards I believe after the notice has been up for 28 days (it’s 28 days now isn’t it?) then they send the relevant documents/information to the registrar in the district we’re getting married at (or we have the choice to collect them and take them ourselves), is that correct? I’ve read something about some blue form, what’s that? Are we good to go then (after paying the rest of the fees)?
Before getting engaged I didn’t realise you even had to do anything to make it legal other than booking a registrar to be there on the day haha. I thought they just turn up, marry you, you sign the register then you’re good to go.
Post # 2
They will ask you questions about your future spouse including his occupation in separate rooms, to make sure you actually know the person you are marrying and aren’t being forced or doing it for legally dodgy reasons. They don’t contact your employer. Don’t worry about this, the registrar was running between us checking we were in agreement because even my husband didn’t know what his official job title was – it was pretty funny and they were understanding.
Your father’s name has to be on the marriage certificate. It’s something which feminists are petitioning against but it’s unfortunately still the law.
I think the “blue form” is your ceremony choices form if you’re having a non-religious ceremony. You choose the wording they will use for the ceremony, music and readings etc. and you have to submit this to the register office for approval before the event.
The whole thing took about an hour. Including paying the deposits etc.
Post # 3
No one I know has EVER been taken into separate rooms to answer questions about their spouse. It’s all relatively quick and easy. They don’t contact your employer, or even care if you’re unemploted. Having your father and father’s occupation on the certificate is just a legal formality.
Post # 4
Ah thank you. That’s a lot of help! I called the registrar (in Bath, we’re getting married there) in… October I think to pay a deposit and make the booking. She sent us a pack then with choice of wording etc. The people at the registry office in Bath are much friendlier than here it seems haha.
As for employer- I mean, I left on good terms but I was quite unwell. I keep thinking I’m going to be at the registry office and they’re going to make me call my old boss for some reason (I know… I’m worrying over nothing haha). Not that it matters that much but I keep worrying that it’s going to be really intrusive.
That’s a shame about father’s name. Oh well, needs must. Dad’s occupation would be a tough one- permanently unemployed, government leech, abusive idiot probably doesn’t count does it!
Post # 5
the registrar on your wedding day will need the blue form, do not lose it! but they’ll explain it all when you’re there, don’t worry, they’re not trying to trip you up!
Post # 6
Fiance and I were interviewed separately. Re the dad’s name thing, I didn’t want my bio father’s name on either. I’m having my stepfather’s name on (which you can do if he was or is married to your mother). It will say “stepfather” next to his name though.