Post # 1
Hi bees! My OH and I have started doing some preliminary research into venues (we’re thinking 2019 for the wedding, so it’s a while off yet!), and I’ve absolutely fallen in love with Cripps Barn in Cirencester – it’s just what I wanted in a wedding venue, and doesn’t completely blow the budget. (I’ve included some pictures below so you can see how gorgeous it is!)
The thing is, it’s about an hour’s drive away from where the majority of his friends and family live in Abingdon, and just over an hour away from my parents’ home. Is this too far away?
I’m not so concerned about my friends and family, as they’re scattered all over the country and would probably have to get hotels no matter where we got married, but the vast majority of his side would be coming from an hour away, and would either have a long drive back or would have to get hotel rooms. I just haven’t found anything I love in that area nearly as much as Cripps Barn.
Am I being selfish? How far away is your wedding venue? I’d love to hear from some bees about how locally they got married!
Post # 2
We got married in my hometown (north west) but we currently live in the east of England, so our wedding was 4 hours away from where we live! A lot of his family had to travel to get there as did a lot of our friends. Most of my family are in that area but spread out. The furthest one of my family probably had to drive was about 40 minutes from their home.
I don’t think an hour is too far to drive to a wedding, especially if it seems to be in between your two families. What might be worth considering is how much will it cost in a taxi if people are to drink or is there a hotel they can stay in? If we were travelling an hour, I’d look to book us into a cheap local hotel and catch a taxi to the hotel but only so we could both have a drink. If there weren’t any hotels it would more than likely be that my husband would drive and I’d drink (but not enough for him to put up with a drunken me) and we would probably leave about 11PM.
Post # 3
Fiance and I are on the south coast with my parents and his mum/stepdad being about 15 minutes away. Our venue is about half an hour away from us 🙂 However a lot of our families are coming down from London, Nottingham, Newcastle, some coming from Canada and Florida.
We’re sending out accommodation suggestions with the invites, there’s 4 hotels all within 25 minutes of the venue so people can make their own choices
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
Mannnn that’s gorgeous!
We’re getting married about 20 minutes away haha not far at all!
However, we have family coming who live like half an hour from us in the opposite direction (at least) and they’re all getting hotel rooms. Nobody really seems to mind 🙂
Post # 5
Ours was about 35/40 minutes from the majority of our guests; almost all of them stayed overnight.
I would say it depends on accessibility: is there on-site accommodation? If not, how far away is the nearest hotel? Is there parking available at both the venue and hotel? Is there a local taxi company to take guests between the hotel and venue?
I would be fine driving an hour if there was accommodation close to the venue, and I could leave my car there and then take a taxi.
Post # 6
Ours is 45 mins from our home town, in the middle of the countryside :/. but 3 hours from my family. I do feel a bit bad that is going to be a pain for people to get home, but i’m sure people will organise taxi and car shares. We are putting in a local taxi list and hotel list in with invites. 🙂
Post # 7
Im getting married over an hour away from where I live with my Fiance. I live in London and am getting married on the Surrey/Sussex border (neither of us have any connection to the area, we just loved the venue). We met at uni so our families arent from the same place anyway. No matter where we got married someone was going to have to travel. Turns out this way we all are! Haha! It didnt even cross my mind that this was a problem. People are always scattered across the country so are always happy to travel for a wedding. I think its part of the fun as a guest!
Also an hours drive isnt long if someone really doesn’t want to book a hotel 🙂
Post # 8
I’m getting married about 20 mins from my home. Our search was all venues within an hours drive. I’d happily travel an hour or so as a day guest but not as an evening guest.
Post # 9
also.. that venue is stunning!! hope you go for it 🙂 x
Post # 10
We’re eloping so the issue of guests having to travel wasn’t going to be a problem. We originally decided on a hotel in the Lake District. We’re in Wales so quite a trek. We the realised that we didn’t want to be traveling that far (especially if we were going to be needing to go there before hand etc.) so picked Bath so… about two hours away give or take?
I love that venue by the way!
Post # 11
Our venue is about 15-20 mins from our house, we were very lucky that the one we wanted was so close by. We we’re considering somewhere that was about an hour and a half, but it was too expensive in the end so we gave it a miss.
I know people who have got married like 3 hours away! If you LOVE the venue, then don’t worry about it, an hour isn’t even that far.
My fiances family are from one county over and for his friends and family it’ll be a 45 min drive, but for my family it’ll be like 20 mins ish. (priorities 😉 haha)
I think that is a GORGEOUS venue by the way, and if i’d seen it before i booked mine then i very well could have said sod the distance I’m going to Cirencester lol! You just don’t want the distance to the venue in lead up to the wedding, like when you’re getting everything sorted out decor wise etc, to be stressing you out because it’s too far to just pop in! If you are very organised this shouldn’t be a problem anyway.
Congratulations by the way, it’ll be amazing! xx
Post # 12
I think that’s fine. Our venues were about 20 mins from our house and anything from 10 mins to an 8 hour drive or a plane ride away for some of our guests but as you say, friends and family are scattered. I expect most day guests will get accommodation nearby for yours. As pp said you may have some issues with evening guests but even then it’s not too far. Maybe see what hotels are nearby and if they’d do a group discount. If you love it and it ticks your boxes then go for it. It’s not unreasonable at all.
Post # 13
Our venue is a 14 hour flight from where we currently live. Our families live on opposite sides of the planet so our wedding destination is right in the middle of both our home countries. i think it’s a good compromise
Post # 14
Thanks for all your input bees! 🙂 It’s been very reassuring. Luckily there are a fair amount of hotels and B&Bs within driving/taxi distance of the venue, so hopefully that’ll keep everyone happy!
Post # 15
Wow, what a gorgeous venue! Not too far away at all. Our venue is over 2000 miles from home, lol.