Post # 1
Have any UK bees had a vow renewal, or considered/looked into one? We are thinking about having one for our 3rd anniversary, as we have had a very tough few years (mainly due to a narc Mother-In-Law who we have now cut contact with, along with a lot of other people), and are finally now starting afresh and would like to mark this in some way.
We want something very simple: a private ceremony with just the two of us, then dinner/drinks/hotel. No guests, no fuss, no photographer etc. This is purely for us. I’ve started having a look, but some packages (with registry offices) seem very expensive: £300 plus just for a ceremony at the registry office. Does anyone know of alternatives? Presumably as it isn’t legally binding pretty much anyone can conduct these?
We’re in London/South East but wouldn’t be averse to travelling if we made a mini-break of it.
Has anyone from the UK had one? If so could you share what you did and how much it cost? And any advice/recommendations would be appreciated!
Post # 2
I’ve never heard of anyone in the UK doing a vow renewal. As your marriage is already legal, would you be able to go the registry office if there is nothing to register?
If you’re religious you could look into having a blessing at a church. When we got married in the Church of England, they had a price for a small blessing ceremony (I think it was about £100). If you’re not religious, could you just find someone to read your vows and go to a public park or a pretty place? Pick a spot in the UK for your mini break and get someone there to just read them? Or altnerarively just say your vows to each other again and have your photographer capture it because it doesn’t need to be legal or binding so there shouldn’t be anything stopping you?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
My Aunt and Uncle had one for their 25th Anniversary. They went to the church they got married at and had their original minister perform the ceremony! It was a lovely day.
I would think you could get away with a celebrant as it doesn’t need to be legally binding, and you wouldn’t have to worry about using an approved venue that way.
My Aunt and Uncle did Afternoon tea after theirs at the village hall, it was very low key but very pleasant – I had far too much cake lol
Post # 4
yeah I don’t know/know of anyone who has had one. I think they are becoming more common as a lot of companies offer them (inc registry offices), but there isn’t a whole lot of info out there. And the registry office ones are on the pricey side for what they are (£300+ for a weekday, more for the weekend). Which just seems a lot for what it is lol. We just want a simple ceremony with vows, a ring blessing, and a certificate.
aww that sounds lovely! Yeah you don’t need a proper officiant/venue but we do want it doing formally, and some of the freelance ones charge a fortune!
At the moment our favourite ideas are:
Registry office ceremony in the district we got married, followed by dinner and an overnight at the hotel we had our reception at: around £600-700;
Vows at the Eiffel tower with a photographer (included in the package): £550 inc Eurostar and 2 nights accommodation;
Beach ceremony where we got engaged in Spain: £? Can’t find an officiant yet; flights and accommodation probably around £300;
Gretna Green: £800 for a basic package, 1 night accommodation and return train tickets
The first and third probably appeal most as they mean something to us, but I think there’s also something romantic about Paris (I adore Paris, OH has never been but would like to go). Gretna Green so has an appeal though the journey is a bit off-putting!
Post # 5
Do you have any faith or spiritual beliefs? If so I’d just pick an officiant from that group and have your private blessing with the vows you write yourself.
Theres no certificate as such as there’s nothing legal to certify but perhaps an arty friend could make something up for you both to sign along with the person doing your blessing if you’d like a keepsake.
We had a humanist wedding. It was perfect for us. If you feel humanism suits your feelings you can contact them?
making it a little holiday with a beach blessing sounds lovely for the two of you.
Post # 6
neither of us are religious or even spiritual (both pretty staunch atheists) so that would be out. I know that the certificates are not legal but like the idea of signing one to commemorate the occasion; OH could make one (he’s a graphic designer) but it wouldn’t hold the same meaning for us I don’t think. Don’t know if that makes sense, but basically we want it to feel official, rather than playing at make-believe, as this honestly feels more significant to us than our wedding in a lot of ways due to the terrible couple of years we’ve had. We want this to be the beginning of a new chapter, and so want this vow renewal to feel ‘proper’, even though we know it isn’t legally binding. That’s probably why we’re leaving towards more official routes, I think.
I do like the idea of combing it with a mini-break; we’d do that with whichever we go for though (we live on the outskirts of London but sometimes stay there for the weekend a d it honestly feels like being abroad as we sightsee/go to nice restaurants/etc just like we would abroad). Though, the idea of sun does appeal as we’re not getting a sun holiday this year! And I do like to sit in the sun with a cocktail or two 😉