Post # 1
My Fiance and I went to Debenhams the other day to look at the Virgin honeymoon registry. Let’s just say we weren’t entirely impressed… Aside from the girl behind the counter being less than helpful we just really didn’t like what they had to offer. For one thing, we’re going to be fairly dependent on our guests’ contributions so we can’t really do long-haul and Virgin doesn’t offer European destinations. They also don’t offer an itemized honeymoon list but the guests are obviously just putting some money in a large pot (which I know is what happens anyway, but it’d be nice if they could buy us a dinner or a massage). Do any of you know what a reliable honeymoon registry is that does offer that kind of thing? A lot of the websites seem really shady and charge 7 or 8% (!!!!) commision which I feel is a bit much. Advice would be very very welcome! Do any of you have any experience with this?
Post # 3
My friend had a honeymoon registry with Trailfinders. They offer a range of destiantions, and wute a good deal. She was very happy with them (wedding was in April).
Post # 4
I don’t know about honeymoon registries but if you having a standard one as well don’t use Debenhams. Have a friend who works in their wedding office and says they never keep stuff in stock very long so the couple wont get what they want. Also guests will for example buy a £200 vacuum and if it’s out of stock they’ll will redistribute the money, so instead of buying one £200 gift (yes I know this is a lot) the couple may get 20 £10 gifts. Thing is, the gift giver and the couple don’t find out until afterwards.
Post # 5
@ladyartichoke: Thanks for the advice! We weren’t going to do a ‘things’ registry because we tend to move house every two years or so (the joys of short-term contracts…) so we’re just looking into a honeymoon. But that sounds pretty grim, especially as Debenhams promotes their registry list so much!
@Cariad: Trailfinders sounds like a great idea! I know this is probably asking for a lot more info than your friend may be willing to give, but I’ll give it a shot anyway :-). Do you have any idea what happens with ‘left over’ money? We’ll be putting in for a modest honeymoon and really don’t want to go over the gift money limit. Can you get any money you don’t spend from the registry back in cash or can it stay in an account that doesn’t expire?
Post # 6
@Oxfordnerd: I’ll ask her, but from what I understood when she explained to me, it is kept in your account and can be used in the future. Will let you know though!
Post # 7
Judging by your username, I’m guessing you’re in Oxford? We went to the Oxford Debenhams to talk to Virgin and were really unimpressed – they actually gave us incorrect information about what destinations they do.
As to the Debenhams ‘things’ giftlist, I reported them to Trading Standards for claiming delivery was free when a delivery charge was buried in the small print. One rep at a wedding fair would NOT give me a straight answer about it, and once I’d seen the conflicting info on their website I reported them. No idea what came of it but they did take it seriously, I know that much.
I would also avoid third-party lists as you are not insured if they go bust and you lose your money.
On a brighter note, Trailfinders are brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. They organised our honeymoon within the budget we gave them (after two other companies turned their noses up at the amount we wanted to spend) and are really helpful, you get a very personal service.
We have their giftlist facility and the way it works is that you have to pay for the honeymoon two months before; any donations to your giftlist are refunded back to the card you used to pay. What we’ve done is open a card with an 0% offer just to pay for the honeymoon; we’ll pay off the balance after we’ve been refunded any guest donations.
Post # 8
Fiance and I are off to Trailfinders armed with great reviews from you guys and high hopes!
@Moomin: Yep, we are indeed based in Oxford and found the debenhams/Virgin store there to be really unhelpful. Don’t get me wrong, the girl behind the counter was really nice and I have nothing against her personally but the whole thing just didn’t sit well at all and we didn’t manage to get any useful info.
The credit card idea is really good, we may run with that as well as it sounds really sensible.
I just saw it’s less than a month until your wedding, good luck!!! Hope you’re having a great time with all the wedding flurry 🙂 Where are you getting married?
Post # 9
I only recommend the credit card thing if you’re self-disciplined enough not to use it for anything else. Moneysavingexpert.com is a good place to look for deals. I think you can also set up a gift list without having your trip booked but not sure exactly how it would work.
And yep we are getting very close now – trust me you’ll be glad you started early as the time really does fly. We’re actually getting married in Bath as it’s a place with a lot of meaning for us. So our on-the-day suppliers (car, florist, make-up) are in and around Bath, but we’ve gone to ring, dress and suit hire places round here. Band and photographer are also Oxford folk as they’re friends (friendors?) I do know a good florist here too who does travel but wanted her to come as a guest!
I had a nosy and saw you’re getting married at the Bod! That’s going to be amazing!
Post # 10
We’re using Honeyfund because, although an American site, it gives you the option for the gifts to be in £ amounts
Post # 11
@Oxfordnerd: Im in bicester so not far!!
Im not a fan of Debenhams Registry either my cousin had lots of issues with them when she got married.
We might look into another cash registry site or something because we would rather have money for the honeymoon but who we have booked it with dont have their own registry or anything.
Post # 12
Personally I would really caution against any kind of third-party giftlist site because if they go bust, you probably won’t see your money – they’re not covered by wedding insurance or the usual credit card protections. Remember what happened with Farepak?
I know the American bees would frown on this, but I have been to plenty of weddings where the couple have asked for cash or cheque donations to their honeymoon, and personally I would sooner have asked for that than used a third-party site just because of the however-slim chance of losing the money.
Post # 13
Aww we (SO and I) were really excited by the Debenhams gift register. The shop in Basingstoke is lovely and they were really amazing to us when we were shopping our friends list. But I guess it might be a different story If it were our list.
Post # 14
I saw this on rocknroll bride the other day: http://www.rocknrollbride.com/2012/07/register-for-wedding-gifts-that-dont-suck-with-wedding-republic/ It’s supposed to be flexible so you could make those categories (e.g. Dinner, surfing trip, massage, …)