Post # 1
This is my first time being pregnant, so I am sure I am over-thinking everything at this point.
However, I had an ultrasound done at eight weeks and one more scheduled at twenty. How do I know if everything is okay in between appointments?
The eight weeks one went well. We heard a heartbeat, and everything seemed to be on track.
But that was three weeks ago. I have fears that the baby stopped growing or the heart stopped beating, and I won’t even know until December.
Is this completely irrational?
If so, does anyone share my irrational fears?
I was put on medication for morning sickness, so I feel like I don’t even know if I have symptoms. I am bloated, but no belly yet.
I don’t feel stretching, my boobs used to be sore, but not anymore…they are not getting any bigger….ughhhhh
I want to feel crappy so I know everything is okay.
I am eleven weeks now.
Anyone else feeling similar?
Post # 2
privatequestions: Good news.. you’re not irrational. Bad news… there’s no way to know everything is ok in between, but odds are that everything is fine.
Post # 3
I felt like this too!! The good news your Dr will listen to the baby’s heartbeat at every appointment so that is always reassuring. I panicked nonstop for weeks because I had zero symptons and still do at 18 weeks. Count your blessings that you don’t feel crappy and they could give you something to help with the MS. I know for me once I hit 12 weeks I truly stopped worrying as much. Also I did get a fetal doppler which doctors will tell you not to get. I know that it is hard to use and hear the heartbeat early on but once I hit 14 weeks I had no issues finding the heartbeat with the doppler and now I listen to it once a week to relax me. Once you start feeling movement that will be another thing to reassure you things are okay. It is impossible not to worry, that’s natural. It is easier said than done, but just trust that everything is okay. Maybe you can see if your dr would give you a script to get a NT scan. It’s another chance to see your little one and something to reassure you. Don’t worry too much or you won’t be able to enjoy your pregnancy! Things have a way of working out!! Good luck!
Post # 4
Youll hear the heartbeat at your monthly checks. If you want to do the genetic testing (NT) scan you’ll be able to see the baby then. They do that between 11 and 13 weeks
Post # 5
GrannyPantiesRock: This is what drives me crazy…all of the unknowns.
Post # 6
EmilyJoy: They didn’t listen for it at my last appointment…I think I would feel better if they did.
I think I am going to skip the medicine tonight just to see. I have an awful cold and really don’t want to sick to my stomach at the same time, but it might make me feel better in a weird way.
Post # 7
privatequestions: Personally I don’t think that’s good enough. I’d be telling them I want a scan at 12 weeks even if it costs extra. I think everyone should have a 12 week scan.
Post # 8
phoebephoebo: Maybe I will bring up how I am feeling at the next appointment and ask if something can be scheduled.
Post # 9
privatequestions: Technically, there’s no way to tell if everything is OK– mostly because there can be a missed miscarraige.
Just because you don’t feel crappy doesn’t mean everything isn’t OK.
My first pregnancy, I was fatigued and ill feeling until the 13 week mark.
This time– I felt worse than my first pregnancy- from weeks 6 until somewhere in the 9th week. Then my food aversions were gone, nausea went away, and I had more energy. Because we were going to travel, I asked for ultrasound to make sure I didn’t have missed miscarriage — so the DR allowed me to have one. The only reason I specifically asked for it though- was because we were traveling and I didn’t want to deal with something on vaca. Everything was great.
Later on, you’ll know everything is OK because you’ll feel baby move.
I know it’s hard not to know- but the best approach to take it to assume everything is OK- unless you have a true reason to believe it’s not. Like major cramping, bleeding, etc……
I understand your fear- but I think a lot of women go through it. They can’t give you a scan at every appointment (unless it’s necessary). I’m in the same boat as you for the most part- I had my scan at 9 wks, and not again until 20 wks. I was able to feel baby move earlier (second pregnancy). Stay positive- it’s best for your baby!!
Post # 10
The Unknown is horrible! I had 8,12,18 then it got more regular.
One sure fire way to tell for me (this is me, don’t stress if it doesn’t happen!) Was my sore ribs, absolutely agonising. I knew my baby was growing. I am a very small person in the hips etc..so my rib pain occupied quite early.
Post # 11
Completely normal fear. I had a scan at 8 weeks, and not another until 20. So those weeks in between were stessful. Unfortunately as others have mentioned there is not much you can do. I agree though the doctor should be checking the heartbeat at your monthly appointments. Take comfort though in that I started showing and feeling flutters around 16 weeks. Easier said than done, but try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy, the time goes by so fast in hindsight, odds are you are totally fine!!
Post # 12
Unfortunately that’s very normal. My frist pregnancy I didn’t have my first ultrasound until 20 weeks. That’s the norm here. This pregnancy I had a dating ultrasound at 7 weeks then my next one at 20 weeks. That’s all we get here. You get to hear the heartbeat at every appointment and that helps. No advice, there isn’t much you can do about it, it’s just the way things are 🙂
Post # 13
It’s perfectly normal here in the UK we have a scan at 12 & 20 and that’s it unless they suspect other things. unfortunately theres not much you can do, but relax. its incredibly unlikely that anything will be wrong, and just because you have very little symptoms doesnt mean there’s anything wrong either. I was the same as you once the pregnancy was confirmed they pretty much went x
Post # 14
privatequestions: I bought a fetal doppler.. Best $50 I’ve spent in my life. I watched instructional videos on youtube that taught me how to find the heartbeat and was able to locate it by the 9th week. Some people will tell you that it’s a bad idea because since it’s so difficult to find, you’ll drive yourself crazy if you have trouble and assume something is wrong. For me, it was more comforting to hear that heartbeat every night before bed. It’s not for everyone, but it’s what kept me sane between ultrasounds so just know that it’s an option.
Post # 15
privatequestions: Your doctor didn’t listen for the heartbeat at your last appointment, because typically you cannot hear it with a regular stethoscope until 18-20 weeks (you can hear it sooner with a doppler). Listening earlier is a waste of time and you have to admit that if they did try and didn’t hear it, you would be even more freaked out.
Try to keep in mind that women have been having babies forever and ultrasound is a very recent invention in the big picture, not coming into use until the late 1960’s.