(Closed) Um, a girlfriend wants to try on my engagement ring?!?!!!!

posted 14 years ago in Rings
Post # 137
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Riverviews Art Space

Oh gosh haha I let WHOEVER try on my ring. I like seeing it on different skin tones, and see what nail polish looks best with it, lol! There are a bunch of ladies at work who are engaged and I take all their rings and put them all on at once HAHA! We are pretty silly though. I think its a personal preference for sure and I would never beg someone to let me try on their ring. Thats the weirdest part to me.

Post # 139
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that is a bit wierd. I let my mom and sister try it on though….but I know they were just admiring my bling! 😉

Post # 140
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have no issue letting close friends try my ring on, however, I wouldn’t let just anyone have that privilege. 

I tried on a few friends rings prior to my engagement and had some other friends that were not comfortable with it. 

Honestly, it’s your decision and regardless if she thinks it’s silly she needs to respect your feeling on it. She might find it to be a bit of a game since you feel so strongly on it. Just bring it up with her and say regardless of how silly you think it is, it’s how I feel and I need you to stop asking.

Post # 141
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Busy bee

@OliveJuiceHunny:  Sorry but it doesn’t sound like SHE’s the one with maturity issues!! Seriously an apology for trying on a ring? 

Post # 142
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@blingbling:  Well I guess it is pretty clear where you stand on this topic. I am one of the people that think my ring is not JUST a ring!! It is a symbol of the commitment between my fiancee and I.  And I’m not asking her for an apology for trying on my ring, because what’s done is done; but rather an apology for down playing my feelings when I told her how I felt about her putting my ring on before I even wore it. On top of that she initially denied putting it on, that just shows you what type of person she is.

I see where she is coming from and where all these women on here are coming from, but I would have at least said something like…”I am totally sorry my intentions were not to hurt your feelings, I had no clue you felt that way” and that is it.  I really don’t think there is anything immature about that.

Thank you for your opinion.

Post # 143
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Worker bee

I love when other people ask to try on my ring, I take it as a huge compliment to want to see it on their own hand and not just look at it and say ‘that’s nice’ and be done with it. It means they really do like it. In fact I actually would be a little upset if they didn’t ask to try it on to be honest.. As long as they’re not some stranger off the street that is…

Post # 145
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Buzzing bee

I’ve only let my sister and a close friend of mine try my ring on. 

Post # 146
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

This weekend, I found out that my future SIL tried my ring on before it was even given to me. My fiance had been showing the ring around to his family before we got engaged, and I knew about that, but I asked him specifically not to let anyone else try it on. We found out this weekend that she snuck a peek and tried it on when he wasn’t around. I consider it very bad luck, and I asked her to turn the ring around my finger three times to “undo” any bad luck. I feel a little better now, but I’m still really ticked off that I was not the first and only person to wear my own engagement ring. I know she didn’t mean anything by it…but maybe after my reaction, she won’t go trying other people’s rings on anymore. I’m sure I was visibly upset.

Post # 147
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Meh, my engaged girlfriends and I try on each other’s rings all the time – it’s not a big deal for any of us.

Post # 148
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Absolutely not. This is my ring. To me it’s the equvalent of a girl seeing my earrings, my sunglasses, my bag etc and asking “OOO can I try it on?” NO.

You can Oooh and Aah over it all you want, but god forbid you get it stuck, drop it, decide not to be my friend and run off with it..just no. Friends + money don’t mix, and to add my own, friends + diamonds = do not mix.  

Post # 149
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Psh my friend MADE me try on HER gigantic diamond encrusted $30,000 ring. e.e I did not care to, but she kept pressing. And surprise, surprise, surprise, her tiny little size 3 or 4 ring did not fit my size 5.5 fingers. GO FIGURE.

Post # 150
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I let people try on my ring all the time. it often gets passed around the table! I feel honored – it lets me know other people think its amazing as well!

Post # 151
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

what’s the big deal? it is an inanimate object

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