(Closed) Um, a girlfriend wants to try on my engagement ring?!?!!!!

posted 14 years ago in Rings
Post # 152
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would never ask anyone to try on their ring but I never thought it was a big deal.  I guess I’m superstitious.  It is strange that she keeps asking though…

Post # 153
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I let my friends try on my engagement ring. My marriage is strong and I don’t believe anything bad will happen. It’s only a ring

Post # 154
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Nobody’s asked me yet. But then I think that’s just my circle, we don’t do that. If someone did ask, I’d consider it depending on who they were. My family or a close friend? Sure! A stranger? Nope. Having said that, I tried on my Mother’s engagement, wedding and eternity bands when we were looking for styles for me. But after thirty years of marriage, she’s not going to fuss too much over them.

Post # 155
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Wannabee

I had one very bad experience

Post # 156
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s bad luck for someone who isn’t married to put on someone else’s engagement ring or wedding bands…. 

Post # 157
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Wannabee

One of my friend worked in a jewelry store, I met her in her store and just had a normal chat. And she told me she was looking for some ideas for her engagement ring, and she wanted to try mine, which I loved so much and didn’t want to share at all. But I was weak especially I didnt see her for a while, felt bad if i turned her down,  so i took my ring off, and let her try.But she suddenly run to her inside office and told me she wanted to show to her other co-workers,  I was nervous and followed her to the outside of office, I saw her showing my ring to two coworkers, and she tried to go inside of that office, I started feeling angry, and asked her to come back, but she still smiled and said : dont worry, i wont lose it. But I insisted, and she went back to me, I said I dont feel comfortable if she kept wearing. Then she took it off, but held in her hand, and told me, how about this, how about i just holding this not wearing. Then I suddenly feel soooo angry and grabbed my ring from her hand and put it on my finger so fast, and said its better you just give me the ring back. Then she said it was ok, something blabla/

After this very bad experience..I dont want to see her any more. I feel she is very selfish and rude.

Post # 158
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Maegan:  it’s a compliment to your ring.  NBD.

Post # 159
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I think it’s weird. Look at fine, but it is a personal thing. It’s not dress up! 

 

Glad my ring size is so small once it’s over my knucle it’s almost impossible to get off. Tongue Out

Post # 160
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 1994

When I first read this thread I was all “whatever, I wouldn’t mind”, and now that I think about it… I would mind.  It’s special, and expensive, and mine.  Just look at it for a minute, don’t think you’re getting to try this on.  You don’t ask to try on my jeans, so don’t ask to try on my ring!

Post # 161
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

If someone (who I trusted obviously) ever asked me, sure. No one is going to curse my relationship with my Fiance because someone tried on my ring. Before I was engaged and would look at my friends rings, they would always offer to show me theirs. 

I do think its weird she keeps asking, though. No boundaries or shame

Post # 162
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No one has ever asked, but if they did I would probably let them. I’m not superstitious. It’s too small to fit on almost anyone’s finger anyway.

Post # 163
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Busy bee

No one ever asked me. I let my daughter (11 yo) try my ring on before xmas just to see what size she was because I was buying her a ring for xmas. LOL. 

I’d never let anyone try my ring on. 

Post # 164
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Maegan:  I’ve let someone else try on my ring.  I guess I didn’t see the big deal?  I mean, I wouldn’t expect them to ask every time I see them but once, meh.

Of course, if you’ve said no, then she absolutely should respect that and drop it.  Tell her this question has been asked and answered already and the topic is closed.  If she tries to argue further or ask again, simply ignore it and change the subject.  

Post # 165
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

When I first got engaged, as in that weekend, my mom asked to see my ring. I took it off so she could get a closer inspection and she tried to put it on. I was shocked! That was so rude. My ring is not a play toy. Her fingers are much bigger than mine. She was able to get it on her pinky. 

I understand why someone would want to hold it, touch it, and even try it on. After all there’s so many positive feelings surrounding the ring. (Not like a gorgeous ring one inherits from a deceased loved one.) But, an e-ring has present sentimental value and I wouldn’t want to just take it off for someone else’s amusement.

Post # 166
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I have both let people try mine on, and asked friends to try theirs on.  No harm in my opinion! It was fun when I had ring fever and wanted to see how different rings looked and felt, and it helped me see what size I was.  I don’t think a lot of people could get my ring on NOW, as it is pretty small, but I’d let people hold it.

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