(Closed) Um, a girlfriend wants to try on my engagement ring?!?!!!!

posted 14 years ago in Rings
Post # 122
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had no idea that this was a thing that people did. I take off my ring before bed and it goes back on post shower. I have never been asked to remove it, except when trying on wedding bands. People ask to see it all the time. I put out my hand and they sometimes take my hand and rotate it but that’s it. It’s a multithousand dollar ring. When it’s not on my finger it’s in its box. I can’t believe people actually ask to try on other people’s jewelry, much less one that signifies engagement. 

Post # 123
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it is fine to let others try on the ring. It’s not like she’s asking you to try on your underwear. So what if someone wants to try on your ring, you will get it back.

Post # 124
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

my best friend (and moh) has asked to do this numerous times and I always let her. usually it’s after we’ve had a few drinks and she tries it on every finger or she gets on one knee for me. I think it’s hilarious… but I’m not superstitious. what creeps me out is when she pets my ring lol now that’s freaking weird

Post # 125
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If it’s a very close friend, like a bridesmaid, that’s kinda ok. As long as we’re not in the middle of a group that will all want to then try it on.

But strangers and not so close firends or aquaintances? That’s weird.

Would I ask to try on someone’s ring? Maybe when I was 17 haha, but no, not now. I think it’s somewhat special to that person and not something to swap around like a top or shoes.

Post # 126
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow I had no idea it was such a big deal!!! My friends and I do this all the time! It doesn’t bother me in the least – they are excited for me, think that my ring is beautiful, and wonder what it would look like on their hands. And I love to see what it looks like when they’re wearing it too. They put it on for like 10 seconds, we talk about how pretty it is, and they give it back. Big deal. They don’t go run errands with it on, try to damage it, or attempt to make out with my Fiance. THAT would be invasive and weird, not trying on my ring.

Post # 128
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I totally agree with you!! I can’t believe most of these girls on here don’t care.  When my fiancee and I started looking at rings I told him I liked the vintage look and that was it! I told him that I wanted him to pick the ring he wanted to see me in.

However, I just found out that my sister in law got the ring and tried it on even before he gave it to me!! Of course I am super upset and I confronted her and she just kept saying that it was just a ring! So she has been acting super immature (she is 27 and I am 24) and refusing to apologize! She has never been engaged so of course she doesn’t realize how meaningful an engagement ring is.

To me it is a symbol of commitment, love, and our bond! My fiancee chose it for ME! I would never even think about letting someone else try on a symbol of our relationship.  My fiancee is a marine and I have experienced not being close to each other because of a 7 month deployment and I believe that is the hardest thing and shows how dedicated we are to each other.

Post # 129
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I personally don’t think it is a big deal. I let my sisters and Maid/Matron of Honor try it on when they asked. While it does hold some pretty major importance to me, at the end of the day, it is just a ring and I trust them enough not to mess it up. I take it as a compliment that they like it so much they want to wear it for a second. The only asked once, tried it on, admired it, and gave it back. That was the end of it.

Post # 130
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Maegan:  Your girlfriend sounds like a freak to me! lol. I would never ask anyone to try on their ring(s), EVER!!!!

Post # 131
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

One of my good friends has asked to try mine on (twice) and I’ve been happy to let her both times. Before I got engaged I had never even touched an engagement ring, so I understand her curiosity. Plus I like to see how it looks from that point of view.

Post # 132
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can’t believe that someone would ask that. I would never let someone try my ring on. I had a friend, the first of my circle to get married, offered to let me try her ring on and I refused. It seems like bad luck and there’s always a chance it could get stuck.

Post # 133
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

1. Before I got engaged, one of my friend at work offered me to try on her engagement ring and also her wedding band but I declined.

2. After I got engaged, I ask another co-worker about her wedding band and she took her wedding band off and offered me to try it on.  So I did!  I never thought I would try it on but she did take it off and hand it to me so I just couldn’t say no.

I personally will not want anyone try my engagement ring or my wedding band on because I believe they’re just for me. 

Post # 134
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Busy bee

I don’t have the e-ring yet… waiting… waiting… but I totally don’t think it’s a big deal to let others try it on. I have several engaged and married friends and we all switch rings and (dream) in my case. My mom has a 2.5 RB diamond, and I’ve tried the sucker on at LEAST 10 times in the 10 months she’s had it (upgrade.) 

I don’t think a ring will magically make me love someone’s hubby or something. Might give me get ring ideas and opinions for the future but thats it.

Holy crap, this thread is 4 YEARS OLD. 

Post # 135
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Maegan:  thats flippin weird

Post # 136
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

i wouldn’t think it was a big deal at all. I’ve had a couple of my friends and my mom try on my ring when I first got it (they didn’t ask to) just so I could see what it looked like on a hand from a distance. I wanted to see it how others did. If it was someone I didn’t know too well, I would think it was weird.

Also, I think it’s annoying that you already said no multiple times and she keeps asking. THAT is rude and obnoxious. She should have let it go after the first time you said no.

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