(Closed) um, congratulations… I guess

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I haven’t had anything really rude said to me re: my engagement but I just wanted to tell you how AWFUL I think T and L are! I understand that maybe it might have been a little offsetting the way he first met you, but really couldn’t make an effort to get to know you first? Before making such a harsh judgement? Oh well, rest easy that you are the better person in that situation and chalk it up to a case of misplaced superiority!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

what an awful thing to say! Did you tell your Fiance and tell him how hurt it made you feel? You should! You don’t want to put up with that crap for the rest of your life, do you?

People have said things (mostly men) about why I want to marry, and that I don’t know what marriage is like, and stuff like that. I think they are just disgruntled men stuck in a relationship that they don’t want to be in. WTF!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Mean people suck… enough said. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Well they are very rude! I can’t believe that there are people out there. What does your Fiance say? I didn’t have this same problem but my parents treat me that way and when I told them Mr. FF and I were getting married my mom was really rude and cold hearted but that is okay cause I am happy now. I would talk to your Fiance about it. And I would blow them off and be done with them.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would take the olive branch and beat both of them with it. Suckheads.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

So rude!   I wouldn’t be extending any more branches their way, seems like it just ends up being an opportunity to toss it back in your face.  I agree with firefighter, and blow them off – no one needs to friends with people like that. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

LOL @KateMW!!!

I always have people say: "Don’t do it!!"  I hate that.  Oh yes, I realize now what a huge mistake marriage is…you have convinced me…seriously??  People in the military (usually married people and divorced people) are always telling the engaged military people what a HUGE mistake it is to get married.  I don’t understand that at all.  The only thing to say if you can’t say anything nice is:

Congratulations!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m totally for the beating them over the head with the olive branches. What the crap kind of behavior is that!?

I’ve mostly been getting nice comments, thankfully. I think some of jis buddies have made the jokes about how he’s throwing his life away, but they’re all supportive. His siblings on the other hand… I’ve been meaning to write about that. They claim he’s changed just to make me happy and things along those lines. They think I’m some spoiled little brat, and that I use big words to make them feel stupid. I use big words cause I don’t realize not everyone knows them! And I haven’t changed him, they just don’t know him. He left for college 4 1/2 years ago and has only visited relatively few times. That’s a long time! He’s grown up a LOT in that time, so he’s not who he was when he graduated high school and left. He didn’t change to make ME happy. Gah. It was very upsetting. So they’re not supportive and haven’t hesitated to make that clear.

Also, my coworker made a big point yesterday of how everyone cheats and it’s almost pointless to get married or trust him or anything. Just because he’s NEVER not cheated on a girl. He said it was weird my FH waited to propose until right before he moved to Denver. Um, he was waiting for our trip to Yellowstone, and he didn’t get the job offer till a week before we left. What the hell? He’s just trying to justify his own behavior by saying everyone does it, but it still bothered me for that to be his attitude.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Hilarious responses here ladies. This one made me laugh outloud tonight.

She seems like she’s a bit of a Negative Nancy … she also seems like a b-word … my fiance has a friend from college that is a girl that seems just like her – all the guys like her, but all their girl friends (girls who are friends, not girlfriends) don’t get along with her.

I had the hardest time convincing him that she’s just not a nice person … until he totally caught her saying something snide to me. He talked to her about it a few days later and she tried to play it off … we just let it go because we don’t see or talk to her much anymore, but unfortunately she’s still invited to our wedding – I just let it go and think to myself how wonderful my day is going to be and how she won’t bother me a bit on that day. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

actually, one of my FI’s best friends moved away with his wife. We have always been close, and they are nice people that we click well with. However, after they moved, they made friends with a couple in their new town. We visited them at their new place, and then went on a weekend trip with them. The couple they recently became friends with also came out to stay for a night.

Those people are wretched!!!! We met and said hello, and were excited and expecting to click with them right away since they are close friends of our best friends. They were practically non-responsive – it was almost like they were jealous of us! The wife in the new couple wasn’t wearing her wedding ring. She grabbed my hand and looked at my engagement ring and said, "That’s nice… OH, I WISH I HAD MINE ON… MINE IS GORGEOUS…" and went on bragging about it. She was just trying to be snotty, and was talking down to me as if to say, "yours is nice, too, but not as nice as mine!". I didn’t have the heart to tell her that not only was my ring a full carat larger, but my quality way surpassed hers, haha. My Fiance was actually appalled at this… they were completely ignoring him as well.

Some people are just horrid like that – we no longer hang out with that couple when we visit our friends. They never even gave us a chance to be friendly… they were horrible from the second we met them. Jealousy can be a dangerous thing, and sometimes people’s true colors come out! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

How awful!  But my burning question is, did your Fi go to their wedding without you?  Take you uninvited?  Did he skip it in protest?

This gal must have a big self esteem problem with girls.  Maybe she was picked on by some girly clique in middle school…

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