Post # 1
Today one of my best friends wrote on my FB wall that she got our invitation and that it’s beautiful. Underneath her comment, a mutual friend wrote “Awesome, can’t wait to get mine in the mail! I’ll be on the lookout!”
Ummm, yeah problem is, said mutual friend is most definitely NOT invited. We haven’t even spoken in like 5 years. Why in God’s name would she feel that she was invited? Or feel the need to post that on my wall?
Ugh, sometimes I really despise facebook.
Post # 4
@Mrs.DBee: And I was SO FREAKING CAREFUL to not post ANYTHING about the wedding specifically to avoid things like this. It’s not my friend’s fault, and I appreciated the great complement. But really, did the mutual friend really have to make a comment like that??
Post # 5
I will never understand this kind of behavior.
I’d private message her right away and say that it’s great to hear from her, but you just wanted to let her know that you can’t accommodate everyone you’d like to and…
Post # 6
Awkward. 🙁 I’d just pretend I didn’t see it… Actually, I have no idea what I would do.
Post # 7
Can you delete the comment from your wall? Kind of a subtle message….
Post # 8
@Gemstone: Tell me about it!! I feel so uncomfortable right now! I really have no clue how to handle this.
Post # 9
@Jenniphyr: Hmmm, that may actually work. Then if she asks I can just say it never posted. You know that damn Facebook always not posting comments and whatnot…..
Post # 10
I got a couple Facebook references to people being excited about attending our wedding who we were most definitely not planning on inviting. None so specific as “can’t wait to get mine in the mail,” but still. I just ignored it and didn’t comment and as far as I know there were no problems.
Your invited friend, however, ought to know better than to leave a public note like that. Just beacuse you’re invited to a wedding doesn’t mean that you should assume that other people are.
Post # 11
@bythebook: I totally agree with this post, I would send her a private message just saying that you are having a smaller wedding and although you wished you could have invited everyone, it just wasnt in the budget and maybe yall should catch up after the honeymoon…
Good luck, then maybe keep the rest of the wedding details off facebook till after the weddig 🙂
Post # 12
I’d probably delete it asap and if asked would just feign obliviousness to its existence. But honestly, if you haven’t even spoken in 5 years, why would you speak now to even be asked about it?
ETA: I loath self invites!
Post # 13
Honestly I’d probably ignore it, which wouldn’t be too awkward since her comment was on another person’s post, not your own.
Post # 14
I’ve been thinking about this a little more, do you think that maybe it was a sarcastic comment?? If so then I’d delete it. If you havent spoken to them in 5 years, they would have no reason whatsoever to say they were expecting an invite, which leads me to believe it might be sarcastic.. Just a thought.
Post # 15
@Legallyblondiebride: I would either ignore it or send her a message saying you are sorry but she can’t come. But if you go ahead and messge her she might ask to be invited.
I would ignore it and blame it on the timeline hehehehe.
Post # 16
Yeah I’d just ignore it. She’ll probably forget soon anyway if you don’t get into a discussion about it with her.