Post # 1
So far 3 couples who said they’d for sure would come have declined. My dad’s side isn’t very close to me and they live 1,200 miles north. FI’S family also lives up north and I’m not too sure if his aunts and uncles will be coming. It really bugs me that people who say they would come declined. We cut our guest list down and left people off to include 2 of the 3 declined couples. And of course I’m not going to say anything but man do I want too. They’ll figure out how much it sucks when they plan their weddings. So anyways, I’m predicting 70/150 ppl to be in attendance. In our giant catholic church. In our reception venue that can hold hundreds (although we can opt to close half of the venue to create intimacy). The other thing that will gnaw at me if I’m predicting correctly? Paying the minimum food and beverage requirement for only 70 ppl. It will be quite the luxurious affair as far as food goes but I wasn’t planning on being ridiculous. Spending $9,000 on dinner and drinks for 70 ppl? Shoot me. Ok. I’m done. Oh and I look like a marshmallow in my gown. Ok. Really done. Love you bees!
Post # 3
We need a RANT board on the bee…
Post # 4
you should send them a bill 😛 j/k but i would send letters or notes out thanking them for their well wishes and an address where they can send gifts
Post # 5
It is early enough that you can still invite people who may have been left off at first and not risk offending them with a late invitation. Hope it works out and you at least meet your minimum!
Post # 6
we eneded up paying for 30 meals and drinks for people who said yes BUT NO SHOWED. our guest list was 270 and only 148 came, 178 marked yes.. so yes it sucks. money wasted but whatever, u still end up marrying ur best friend and u will look gorgous and have people who really care for u two celebrate with u
Post # 7
We definitely need a rant board.
I’m sorry you’re in that position though, I can’t imagine how frustrating. Blah. Can you find other people to fill the gaps?
Post # 8
Is it too late to invite others?
Post # 9
There are others I could invite but I would have to make sure that I have enough extra invitations and rsvp cards.
Post # 10
@Willow1991: we DEFINITELY need a rant board!!! I’m soooo sorry your guest list is dwindling and your minimum may kick in 🙁 Something similar happened to us (with DH’s side) – he had a cousin get married the same day and they were all in closer proximity to the cousin (by several hundred miles) – so guess whose wedding they didn’t attend. Yep! The silver lining is you will STILL have an amazing time… but guest list issues REALLY suck! Do you have anyone that you wanted to invite, but cut from the guest list?
Post # 11
You have plenty of time to send additional invites and it won’t scream “B List” to those people.
Post # 12
We had 60% show up. Not only did it hurt, I was pretty pissed. I had nightmares about the church being empty.
Post # 13
That is super disappointing, but at least they told you early! Definitely do a B list. The invitations don’t have to match the first set you sent out so you could always get inexpensive extras at Target, etc.