(Closed) UMMM … why am I apologizing ???

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you’re being oversensitive. I think your emotions tied to this day because of your father’s death are clouding your ability to realize that everyone – regardless of how much they care about someone – forgets to look at the clock every now and then! I think you should have accommodated her – how hard is it to pull a chair up to a table after the fact, really?

Post # 4
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I dont know. While I wouldn’t want to lose my reservation, I don’t necessarily think telling your fathers widow to not come just because she was late was the right thing to do. Maybe she really did lose track of time, which is a bit flaky, but she had every right to be at that dinner and I don’t blame her for being upset. There are other restaurants you could have gone.

ETA: I find it weird that a restaurant wouldn’t sit you until the whole party is there. I’ve been to restaurants all over the country and I’ve never heard of such a thing. Maybe I’m visiting the wrong places. 

Post # 6
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LNT:  I know texting is the communication of choice these days, but do you think it would have been more effective to call her?  Since she never responded to your texts, who knows if she actually ever read them.  🙁 

I agree with PPs here that as your father’s widow, she did have a right to be at that dinner.  I probably would have just waited and let everyone’s grumbling tummies and “I’m SOO hungry” complaints be her punishment when she gets there. 

Post # 7
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

“Great way to show some respect for my Father, who you supposedly loved.”

You’re overreacting and it shows in this post. It’s understandable because I’m sure it’s an emotional time, but please cut your step mother some slack. You’ve never been late in your life? She was honest and said she lost track of time, humans make mistakes.

Sorry to hear of your loss, this should be a time for rememberance not arguing with family. Family is so important, no sense causing drama over 15 minutes.

Post # 8
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah I agree with PPs. Is it annoying that she was running late? Yes. But it’s not cause to cut her out of the dinner entirely. I think she has every right to be upset. You honestly have no idea what she was doing – she may have been having a rough day remembering him. I know tension and emotion probably played a lot into both her oversight and your reaction.

And why would you lose the reservation if she were only 15 minutes away? If the restaurant was courteous at all (and I’m sure they would have lost a HUGE amount of business had your party left) then it could have worked out fine, I think.

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