(Closed) Ummmmm…Hmmm..

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I don’t think I’ve ever been to a byob wedding. I’d probably be more worried about people overindulging than if Inwas providing alcohol and a professional bartender.  As long as you’re in a venue that allows byob I wouldn’t automatically assume itll be boring (although I don’t label dry weddings as that either). 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve been to several dry weddings and had a good time. My wedding is going to be dry because FH used to be an alcoholic and since Future Mother-In-Law has passed we want to keep the temptation away from him. I hope that our guests (the few that we’ll have) will still enjoy themselves. We’re planning on something short and sweet so if people are bored they won’t have to be bored long, haha.

ETA: I don’t think BYOB is a no no. My friend had a BYOB wedding last month and it went over well. Of course some people brought coolers of beer and stuff, but nothing got out of hand and everyone said that it was pretty cool that they could drink whatever they wanted.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think alcohol makes it more fun but I also don’t think a wedding should be BYOB. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think BYOB is fine!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My Fiance shocked me with the news that he was telling his side of the fam to BYOB!!! I was planning on serving signature cocktails and purchasing these cute little drink tickets (in the matching color scheme) to go along with it. I don’t even know how to react to this as well.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’ve never been to a wedding that was BYOB. Personally I don’t usually drink a ton at weddings. I am particular about alcohol as I’m not really a fan of how it tastes. Socially I prefer very sweet drinks since I dislike alcohol, and I can’t just sip on an alocholic drink unless it’s super sweet, and the only time I veer away from that is if I’m actually looking to have some shots and get down and can just pour some alochol down my throat, which I don’t usually do at a wedding LOL. So to answer the question, having alcohol doesn’t necessarily make the night more fun for me since I don’t usually drink much at weddings. Not sure how I feel about the BYOB thing though. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

BYOA (anything) is considered bad etiquette from what I’ve heard.  Guests should be hosted properly and you already are doing that without alcohol. 

I think you don’t NEED alcohol.  A champange toast is very lovely though!  Just don’t expect it to be dance til 1am kind of party I guess!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ill be having a dry wedding also, the hall allows alcohol with a deposit and if I pay the sheriffs to be there but who wants to drink with the sheriffs watching you? My husband has said his friends will probaly do the byob anyway lol so I see no problem with it. Sounds weird but hey do your wedding how you want

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sienna76:  Actually it’s not bad etiquette.  Etiquette says that you provide them with soft beverages at least…whether you choose to lubricate them chemically is a personal choice.  😉

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never heard of BYOB wedding honestly.  As for you not wanting to spend money on alcohol you won’t drink…Even though you don’t drink I ultimately think you are playing host and should provide the alcohol for your guests because to me as a hostess, it is most important that my guests be happy and comfortable.  Or I say just have a dry wedding.  Even just supplying a few bottles of wine for each table would be better in my opinion. 

How will not supplying alcohol not tempt your recoving friends if there is still alcohol there?  They could bring their own or ask to share with someone else who brought some in.  I also feel if it is BYOB you can’t tell people how much they can bring.  

Just my 2 cents.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it’s more acceptable to have a dry wedding than it is to have people “BYOB”. I hope you don’t take offense to this, but I would be more shocked to see someone asking me to bring my own alcohol than being told that there wouldn’t be any alcohol served. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@KateByDesign:  +1. I’d feel the same way.

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