(Closed) Umm…no you can’t try on my engagement ring! VENT

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 92
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I honestly don’t care. The only people who’ve asked are my mom & sister- and they just wanted to admire my ring (which they deem “huge”). I was just flattered, and happily obliged. I guess it’d be weird if it were a stranger, but I still don’t understand getting upset about it.

Post # 93
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

This happened to me, but the opposite! I met a friends fiancee for the first time (they were recently engaged) and when she found out I was also engaged she asked to see my ring. She then saw mine was bigger than hers with a different style and decided she wanted to see how her ring looked on MY hand (I’m assuming to compare diamond sizes/ring styles) and told me to try on HER ring. I gave EVERY excuse I could not to, I said it wouldnt fit me, I was hot and my fingers were therefore bigger, I literally said ‘no its ok’ but she actually grabed my hand and put it on my right hand finger and started comparing my ring to hers. I couldn’t be rude to her because my friend (her FI) was right next to her and I took it off ASAP! I think she then wanted to try my ring on because she kind of looked at me expectantly but no way would I ever let her or anyone else try on my ring! I am so protective over mine and don’t think anyone should ever wear it/try it on other than me! I was so shocked she did this and my Fiance couldn’t believe it either!!

Post # 94
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

that’s so strange. why would anybody want to try on your engagement ring? I’ve never had anybody ask, and I never take off my rings anyway – if they want to see it, I give them my hand.

Post # 95
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, the only person to ask me was my Irish friend and I thought it was a sweet tradition. Apparently you put the ring on and spin it around three times without touching the diamond, then you hold it to your heart and make a wish. Seems harmless to me as long as you know the person well.

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

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@HisNightOwl2014:  

I’m sorry but that’s crazy,  she’s your friend and you were gutted she tried on your ring? i love seeing my ring on friends, it just re-enforces how beautiful it is and how good it looks on my finger. I think people need to chill…

Post # 97
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

While we were looking at bands in a store in the mall, a sales lady came up and asked if she could clean my ring for me.. not even thinking, I agreed and handed her the ring. The second I put the ring in her hand my heart started pounding and I wanted nothing more than to have that ring back on my finger. To make matters worse, she held the ring under a light and oo’ed and awh’ed over it for a second before placing it on her finger to look at it that way! I was SO angry. I got the ring back from being cleaned (and shown every band in the store by then) and left. I will NOT take off my ring like that ever again. I’d rather clean it myself.

On another note: I was with some friends of my FIs a few years before getting engaged and some drunk girl was all “here try this on” and put her ring on my finger and said “this is what $10k feels like!” ok thanks.  random AF.

Post # 98
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@SweetChick:  I agree with you here. I don’t mind friends and family trying my rings on at all. Not like I’m going to let a random stranger try them on, but people I know well don’t bother me at all. I love to see how they look from an outside point of view.

I know some people are superstitious but if you seriously think someone trying on your ring is going to bring bad luck and destroy your marriage or your marriage is going to be any less special because someone put on your ring, then maybe your relationship isn’t as strong as it should be. Because I’m sorry, but my marriage isn’t going to disolve just because someone put on my ering and yours isn’t going to either. If anything, I like to think that everyone who tries on my ring brings a little extra love to my marriage (since the only people who try on my ring are people that support my Darling Husband and me).

Post # 99
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

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@mg1363:  

Theres a lot of strange comments on here about this! I worked in a jewellery store for a while and any rings that needed repair/cleaning were given to us and kept in the safe. Did us girls try on all those rings? You bet we did, and enjoyed it too!!  Tried on some real beauties and also some right howlers lol so Calm down ladies, get over it, it’s not the ring that matters, it’s the man and the marriage and ultimately at sometime, your ring will need repair jobs and professional cleaning and those jewellery shop girls will be eagerly waiting in the wings, rubbing their sticky little hands together for your shiny precious rings! Mwahahahaha!!!! Surprised

Post # 100
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I let my Maid/Matron of Honor and two fo my bridesmaids try on my ring within about 20 minutes of getting engaged.. doesnt bother me one bit. One of my business mentors who has a 20 carat ring lets me try on her ring all the time.. I guess its just not a big deal to me.

Post # 101
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@SweetChick:  ROFL!  I love the evil laugh.  You know I wouldn’t let some stranger try on my ring because who knows if they’d run off.  My friends wouldn’t ask because they know I’m a little more private.  Family no biggie but I doubt anyone would ask but my two little nieces that are 7 and 8 yrs of age.  

Post # 102
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Strangers? That’s… really strange and inappropriate. If it was a close friend, I don’t think I would personally mind. But I also have a size 4.5 finger and I don’t know anybody who can even come close to getting it on their finger in the first place, ha ha.

That being said, when I was a senior in high school, I was a TA for one of the young female teachers at my school who was newly (2-3 years) married. She was sooo sweet, and knowing how much so many of us 18-year-old girls were dreaming of our one-day weddings, she would actually offer to let us try it on. (I did go to a REALLY small high school, though- only about 20 girls in my year, so she knew us all pretty well.)

Her ring was GORGEOUS, too. A big, gorgeous princess-cut solitaire.

Post # 103
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@ForeverAndEverAfter:  My mom was the worst about this and still four months later she has to do this.  She always just grabs my hand and yanks it off.  (Which kind of hurts now that the weather is warmer and it fits tighter.)  It really sucks because she always compares it side by side to her’s and my stone is twice the size.

To make matters worse when I got it she demanded that my dad get her a new one because I shouldn’t have a bigger one that her.  After that, my dad told me to try not to wear it in front of her too much.  It drives me nuts.  This month I finally put my foot down and told her she can’t take it off my finger anymore unless she wants me to do the same which hers.

Post # 104
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

This happened to me (and still does.)  I don’t know why people think that they have the right to just grab your hand and yank your ring off so they can try it on.  It doesn’t help that I wear a size 5 so they can never force it all the way on.  I usually try to tell them that it won’t fit them.  Hopefully before they have pried if off my finger.

Post # 105
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@ForeverAndEverAfter:  ummm I don’t think someone else’s diamond is going to scratch yours…that’s crazy talk right there…..

Is an engagement ring some kind of magic talisman that loses it’s powers if anyone besides you wears it? I’m confused by the spazziness of some of these responses! People have asked me, if I wasn’t comfortable I’d be like umm well my ring size is a 4 so idk if it will fit you….but that’s if it’s an out and out stranger who might run off with it (I’m in NYC so legit concern) but usually I’m like yeah sure…..

 

btw coworkers aren’t strangers….

Post # 106
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That is so weird. I have a 2 ct center stone and .5 Ct stones set into the band, so it’s a sparkly one… and I think people just want to see what a big ring would look like on them. It’s like trying on the $10,000 wedding dress when you’re on a $2,000 budget. It will only make you sad and wish you had the other one, DON’T DO IT!!

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