Post # 1
first time poster. This is my dilema and I’m not to sure how to go about with this now!
Originally I was to marry in 2013. But because of financial worries, we moved it to 2014. I have picked 3 bridesmaids (all related to me) and 2 of my really good friends. Now, due to some cultural conflicts and 2 divorced parents, I need to have one wedding ceremony and 4 separate wedding receptions (all now paid for by the parents). However, because of the changes, all of the parents are teling me to illiminate the 2 bridesmaids who are friends as it doesnt make sense since i’m no longer having a big one night celebration. Both my fiance and I agree on this, but now, how do i tell my 2 really awesome friends who have helped me plan wedding stuff so far that I can’t have them anymore as a bridesmaids? It will crush them, and I am afraid it will ruin our friendships. someone pls help me!!!!!
I can only think of reassigning them as ‘wedding helpers’
Post # 3
I think you should tell the family to stuff it. Have them be bms for the ceremony but don’t require them to go to all of the receptions
Post # 4
I also can’t believe that you’re having 4 receptions. They’re not all going to be formal and in your wedding dress, are they?
Post # 5
I think definitely keep them on as bridesmaids! What are your reasons for not wanting them anymore? They don’t need to wear matching dresses for every reception or anything, but you obviously chose them for a reason so I think they should still get to stand beside you at the ceremony.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t reassign as ‘wedding helpers’ – sounds like you just want them to do stuff for you with that title and if someone offered me a ‘wedding helper’ job I would probably scoff, then decline in all honesty.
It’s your wedding – you can have as many bridesmaids as you like. They can still be in the ceremony can’t they as this is the main part of the day?
Post # 7
4 receptions…. wow! Many people have divorced parents but the wedding is about YOU and YOUR fiance. The parents can suck it up for one day. Make sure you are letting the parents know what you want and don’t let them sway you, it is your day after all.
Post # 8
Totally off topic, but how do four receptions work? I’ve never heard of such a thing.
Post # 9
It’s about your marriage, not anyone else’s opinions. Do what you feel is right.
Post # 10
Thank you to everyone who’s written on this topic.
So, I should’ve clarified. yes i will be wearing the dress 4 times, its actually really odd I know.
But for now, I’m going to continue to have all 5 bridesmaids as bridesmaids…. everyone is right, its about me and my fiance and what we want! lol (he has only a best man and no one else to avoid ‘drama’)
Im also really sorry for replying late, i didn’t get any notifications on this thread i created *smacks head* because i didn’t click the “notify follow up” button!!! lol