Post # 1
I had bridesmaids but canceled them knowing I didn’t want to find dresses and I realized I’d asked the wrong people ’cause I’d known them longest…so I told them all “thank you, but I’m not having bridesmaids”
EDIT: 2 of the 3 girls live out of state and we rarely talk unless they’re in town. I just knew them so long I thought it was the right thing to do or something.
Well, I can’t pick new girls because that would be a bitch move. What I am doing is asking a few girls to get ready with me. Enjoy mimosas, fruit and hang out while I get my hair and make-up done, and at least one girl is getting her hair done.
Has anyone else had friends help with the planning and do bridesmaid-ish things without an official role?
Post # 3
I also asked some girls to be my bridesmaids but decided against it when we made our wedding smaller (a bridal party of six or seven seemed a bit much for a thirty guest wedding so I’m having my brother, he’s having his brother and friend). I’m hoping they’ll come get ready with me anyway though on the wedding day and two out of the three have been helpful with some decisions and ask me regularly how things are going. I totally feel you on not wanting to pick out a dress though. And I know the three of them weren’t well off financially so it would have been a stretch to get everything paid for between me and each of them. I also realized later that one of them I only asked because I felt obligated so the decision worked out in multiple ways for me.
Post # 4
We have 57 gues and are only expecting about 50. It’s in the longe area of a restaraunt and since I won’t see 2 of 3 girls till the wedding I was just thinking “what the hell is the point?” the 3rd girl who wasn’t a mistak has offered to help plan my bachlorette while one of my besties is willing to plan the shower. My other bestie is going to help with centerpieces. So all the people I adore and am actually close with are helping me anyway. I love my girls!
Post # 5
We’re hosting a 100 guest wedding and I choose from the get-go to not have attendants. We’re both almost 30, we’ve moved through various states for the military and all my best high school friends are planted in 3 different states. It just seems like a headache.
Through research on the net – I’ve found what is called a “house party”. It’s where you share all the joys of having bridesmaids without having them stand up beside you. Or in some cases, only choosing 3 people to stand beside you but “including” a few more into your house party (aka those that stay seated).
I’ve talked to each one of my besties and have explained that I still plan on treating them like attendants… I don’t want to miss out on giving them something special for helping me do the norms, such as: bridal shower, hen party, etc…
I guess in essence – I’m having a “house party” lol.
Post # 6
I will look into “house party”. I want to get my two best friends something since they’re planning parties and helping with centerpieces. I was even humoring a “Un-bridesmaid” tote as a novelty gift
Post # 7
I’m having two MOHs and a House Party of two (or maybe three…) – but I really like the idea of un-bridesmaid totes … and I think my girls would totally use them during this time – just for giggles! AND I might even talk to Maid/Matron of Honor C because I know she’s got some Bride and Maid/Matron of Honor tees made up for the Hens Night … Un-Bridesmaid tees just might be called for in this situation!! lol