(Closed) unapologetic RSVP stragglers

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would either phone them or send an email saying that we need answers including entree selection by ( insert date-? tomorrow)  to confirm with caterer or we will  have to assume  that they are unable to attend.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@blingbean: You’re better than me. If it’s been over a week past the deadline, and even after you’ve contacted them, they still are saying, “We’ll let you know….” I’d let them know that it’s past the deadline and then we can no longer reserve their seat at the wedding as the entree selection were required by _________.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I totally understand! Our RSVP date was July 23 and we had people changing their minds until August 19. Actually, someone tried to say they could come on August 24, but we said no because we had just paid the balance due to the caterers.

And of course, no apology, just a guilt trip like we’re being totally strict because “It’s a buffet right? Can’t you just slide a few more people in there? Can’t they just add another chair to one table? How hard is that?”

Ugh. So glad THAT’S over. Hang in there!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

People can be so rude- I hope they get late responses when they’re planning their own wedding!

@Lida, those comments would have my blood boiling!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe you can still work on seating charts, just lump all the stragglers together. They all have something in common, right? And if you come late to the show, you don’t get the good seats.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@sassypants: I did notice that my few young, married friends were the first to reply. They must have gone through the same crap themselves!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Blah.  I so don’t miss that part.  I found calling worked out the best.  I called everyone I was missing and then told them if I didn’t hear back by <insert date>, I was going to mark them down as a “no.”  I think I gave an extra 2 or 3 days if I had to leave a message and then didn’t budge.  They had 5/6 weeks with the invite by that point.  

I remember calling one of my uncles to get his RSVP and the RSVP for my cousin (his daughter).  He then told me he thought I knew what the plan was (that he was flying up for the wedding).  Ummm…no, how could I know that unless he told me or sent in the RSVP?  I then asked about my cousin and he then told me, “Didn’t you know she has to work that weekend?”  How am I suppose to know this stuff?  They live out of state and they didn’t send back their RSVPs!  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@kerensa: lol, this made me laugh

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m in the same boat.  RSVP date was 8/26 and we’ve emailed/called 34 couples that we didn’t get an RSVP from.  I read a lot of people who say, “Oh, if they don’t RSVP, just assume they’re a “No.”  That hasn’t been the case for us at all and of the people who have gotten in touch with us, ALL have been a “Yes” except for three.  We’re still waiting to hear from 7 couples….it’s getting really annoying.  We’re giving them until Friday and then “Sorry, but we’ve reached capacity and don’t have anymore room”….which is actually the truth.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I had someone call me the week before the wedding to tell me she couldn’t come after she had RSVP’d yes b/c she had a baby shower for her cousin that day. We were less than amused. I don’t care if you can’t come…just tell me so I don’t waste my money! we just got her save the date in the mail. My husband told me that we should RSVP and then cancel the week before. 

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