(Closed) Unasking a bridesmaid HELP

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you unask this bridesmaid?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    10 %
    No : (12 votes)
    60 %
    Wait and See : (6 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1718 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

    I don’t think I’d "un ask" her to be my bridesmaid unless she did something to totally jeapordize our friendship, like sleep with my fiance, or tell me to my face that she disapproved with my marriage and would not be friends with me anymore if I married my husband.  Being late to a bridal appointment is a very excusable offense.  I know it is your big day but there is a distinct possibility that she and her boyfriend were in a serious fight, or something was happening in their lives that may have been very important.  Try to give her the benefit of the doubt on this one. Unasking her to be your bridesmaid can essentially jeapordize your friendship, and I assume that because she is your bridesmaid, she is a good friend of yours.

    Post # 4
    Member
    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I’m with Penguin on this… you could do some serious damage to your relationship with this girl if you do unask, so ask yourself if it’s worth it to lose this person from your life. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee

    Sorry, but this seems a little silly. There is nearly 18 months between now and your wedding so there is the potential for each of the 10 other girls to do something that will annoy you. Are you going to then “unask” them to be in your wedding? I wouldn’t think so if they seemed important enough to you to ask them in the first place. Why don’t you just let this blow over and see how things go.

    Post # 6
    Member
    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I think that maybe you should remeber (as we all should) that while this is YOUR big day and to you the most exciting thing EVER, the people involved are probably NOT as hyper excited about it as we would really love them to be.

    Just talk to her – tell her that you will try not to be all about the wedding if she will try to be more supportive and be involved.  Maybe you should ask her if she really wants to be in the wedding and let her know that you totally understand if she says no.  Maybe she thought she could afford it when you asked and now she can’t but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

    Talk to her and you will work it out, I’m sure!

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