(Closed) Unattractive Ring

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

Oh hon, why don’t you post a picture of your ring so we can all critique it.

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I dont think it is up to you to decide if the lady likes the ring or not. My fiance and i literally stated from the bottom… we met as roommates in a house. each paid $200 in rent per room. We eventually graduated to our own (small studio) apt then he bought a ring and purposed. My ring isnt worth 1,000…. hell maybe not even 500.. but he cried proposing to me expressing his love. that moment was priceless. the ring is a ring. its the love 2 people have for eachother that matters.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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merrymargaret :  Who cares what you think of someone elses ring. Its not even about the ring… the ring just symbolizes something that is hopefully so beautiful and valued to that person (marriage, of course) Shame on you.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee

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merrymargaret :  How do you know she didn’t like it? Did you ask her? Did you have an in-depth conversation where you exclaimed, “you poor thing!”

FWIW, I have 3 rings. One is a CZ that my DH bought me while mine was being made. The second was just a ring I liked that I would sometimes wear when I didn’t want to wear my CZ. The 3rd is a diamond rock that is my “real” wedding ring. To a (nosey) 3rd party onlooker, they might think I didn’t like my e-ring and kept upgrading. But it’s really not the case at all… and half of the time I only wear my plain band because I just WANT to. 

So yeah, your attitude is very presumptuous and judgey

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

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merrymargaret :  Wooooow. If a plain gold band is a sorry excuse for a ring, about a billion people must be rolling in their graves right now because that’s been the standard for wedding rings for a long time. My Fiance and I picked my ring out together, but I would have accepted anything, because the ring represents the love and comittment of a marriage. I love my ring but I would happily wear a plain gold band if that’s what I got.

I have a $40 silicone ring I wear pretty frequently because it’s more practical and I bought that for myself! In her line of work a plain band would actually be pretty appropriate since I’m sure she takes gloves onand off and washes her hands frequently. No matter what, if she wants something different, she should buy it herself and you should butt out with the judgy thoughts.

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’ve seen rings worn by other women and have thought its not my style but I’ve never thought “you poor thing” or pitied someone based on their ring.  That’s just super judgy and odd to me.  It’s also odd that you care enough about this woman’s ring(s) that you brought it to a public forum.  If the woman is unhappy with her ring(s) then I hope she will delicately communicate her feelings to her fiance or husband.  It’s her business not ours.

Post # 39
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Helper bee

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merrymargaret :  YIKES, just that? What have the other two been? 

I get it, why everyone is jumping all over the place, you get it too. Yet, at the same time, we are all entitled to think whatever we want to think, it’s a free country. Of course, we don’t want anyone thinking or saying anything badly about our rings. But we all judge, we aren’t above reproach, we all do the side eye.. I’m sure I’d most probably think the same thing… WTH, I KNOW I would think the same thing 😀

I hope you’re liking the creativeness of the other bees at least with all the pics, like an army of glitter, perfume, flowers, and diy.

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Everyone can say what they would like, but I do not think the OP was deliberately trying to be rude or offend anyone on here, even if she may have. I think we have all seen something that wasn’t our style and judged someone one time or another because they are “different” than us. 

But OP, be careful when you have thoughts like that. We all have judgemental moments at times, but that doesn’t mean we should plainly state them. 

But to play your game OP. I love my ring and I would never change it in the world!

Post # 41
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Busy bee

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merrymargaret :  if you mean hot topic as in rude then yes!

 

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Wow! This was NOT what I expected opening this thread. Just who ARE you to judge and what were you hoping to gain from sharing your unnecessary, unwanted opinion?

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Beach

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I really don’t see why everyone is getting their panties in such a wad over this thread. If you came out and said to the girl, “Wow, you poor thing, what a hideous ring you have” then yeah, I’d be like, “Girl, chill, no one cares about your opinion.” But for the Bees who are coming on here like, “How DARE you judge the symbol of this man’s love for this woman . . .” sorry, I’m rolling my eyes. We all judge. A girl at my office got engaged and her ring is absolutely hideous. When I saw it I believe my internal reaction was o_0. Outwardly? I smiled, ooh’ed and ahh’ed and said my congrats and then moved on. I didn’t see anything about me not liking it and I’m sure she was none the wiser. I’m not judging the “symbol of her love” I’m judging a tri-halo with multi-colored stones and a twisted band that is NOT my style. And what does it even matter? She LOVES it.

My ring is not to the tastes of many, many women. Who cares? 

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