Post # 1
I haven’t posted here for a looooong time, but some of you may remember me from earlier this year as being the bride who got dumped by her fiance just after New Year’s, and many of you were really helpful and supportive in the first few days after that took place.
Well, fast forward to eight months later… I am now soooo much happier being single and totally over my ex. But I’m also 2 weeks away from my wedding day, and although I’m not getting married, I feel like the day deserves some acknowledgment, so I’m planning an Unbachelorette Party to go out on the town with my girls!
The idea is that it’ll be pretty much like a bachelorette party, but nobody’s getting married – it’s a girl’s night out to celebrate a day that could otherwise be quite sad. We don’t want to spend quite as much money as we would if it was a real bachelorette party, i.e. no favors, no gifts, no customized tshirts, etc. But we’d still like to make it special and fun.
Got any suggestions? So far all we’ve thought of is that we want to head out to a loungey club somewhere and dance. But you know the sort of "to-do lists" of fun tasks that brides often complete at bachelorette parties? Do you think anything like that would translate well to the unbachelorette party concept? Do you have any ideas for cute titles i.e. the Maid of Dishonor (since we’re going with the unbachelorette theme, it seems appropriate!)
Ideas would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
I think unbachelorette party makes the most sense and I would get a fabulous cake–maybe one with only you on top? And Champagne to toast your single-ness. I dont know if this would make sense with what you have planned but maybe before or after..ANYWAY if it were me, I would want to have a sort of pajama party, do all the things you wont do as a married woman, play Mystery Date or Twister or Truth or Dare or rent Little Darlings You could also ask every one of your friends to write you a profile for eharmony or something-even if only as a fun thing to read and keep. I would not select maid of dishonor, because it is unfortunate but not really dishonour…I would embrace the fact that…better now than later on down the line. Take a lot of pictures and consider maybe making it the theme of whatever was in style when you were in Jr High. You could also write secret notes to boys or whatever you did before you ever dated a single boy. Depending which way you are going–you could make invitations of a picture of you and your ex-torn in half. Send yourself some flowers on your would have been wedding day. I know you didnt ask for this advice but dont be too hard on yourself if you are upset that day–the groom isnt the only fun part of a wedding! So its ok to mourn the party, etc.
Glad you have moved on! Bravo to you
Post # 4
Wow thanks for all the great ideas ju1244!
The maid of dishonour thing was just funny… it’s just my sister, who was going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and she started calling herself that, she thinks it’s funny! I wouldn’t have the heart to strip her of her new title, haha.
Post # 5
not really a "to-do" item..but karaoke!!! 🙂 there have got to be some good "single girl" songs! flirt up a storm!
and ya know, i went through this SAME thing last June…it’s good to keep your friends around to help you not get all bummed out and sad.
maybe if you want to do the "funny titles" make sashes, Maid of Dishonor, Bride Not to Be…dunno what else you could come up with. Just an idea.
Post # 6
So many great ideas already! I think you could definitely do some of the things at your party that are done at bachelorette parties. One great game I have seen is "That Guy Bingo". You basically have bingo cards with types of guys (the jock, the mullet, etc.) and try to find and take a picture with each one. The first to complete the card wins. It also might be fun to make some sort of fun sashes (Single and Fabulous, Maid/Matron of Honor To-Be, etc. to draw attention to your flirty posse and to score free drinks) 🙂 It also might be fun to make some sort of T-shirts for your party. It’s up to you what you want them to say. Good luck and have fun! I love that you are doing this and celebrating yourself!