- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hi, I’m needing alot of advice. I’m getting married in less than 2 weeks and my inlaws are making me want to call it off. We’ve been together about a year and a half now, and I dnt know if I’m just having last minute jitters or if I should really call it off.
Since day one my inlaws have been trying to run the show. At the time I wasn’t talking to my family due to differences and I wanted to share me picking out my dress with a mother figure so I invited my mil. She made a huge scene in the bridal store and alls I heard about was how bad the dress I wanted looked on me. I bought the dress anyway because I was in love with it a when the store first opened, almost 9 years ago, and it was still there. I knew it needed altering, much like any dress and I was ok with this.
they argued about everything over this wedding and they aren’t the ones paying for it. I made up with my family and let me tell you, they made me appreciate my family more. They bitched about where we were having the reception, the date we originally wanted to get married, my dress, the invitations..just everything. The least straw is when they were on speakerphone and I heard his dad tell me fiancé how ugly and horrid I looked in my wedding dress. I cried. I still cry over this, and now I’m dredding walking down the aisle for fear everyone will snicker and think I’m ugly. His dad also sent me a txt saying “f*ck you”
there is so much to this, but you get the idea. When I told his mom that I heard everything and it really hurt she started a fight with me and said she wasn’t coming (thank god)
but then I find out she lied to my fiancé and told him I told her not to come. Thank god I saved her texts cause he believes me. But Iam now terrified in having anything to do with this horrible family. Oh, and in the beginning, I was trying to plan a big beautiful wedding and she told my fiancé that I was in love with the wedding and not her son, then his grandpa changed our pizza caterer to a nicer caterer because he didn’t want to “look bad in front of high class relatives and the church” plz dear god help me before I may make the biggest mistake if my life! I almost feel like everything his family is doing is pushing us further apart.
I keep thinking to myself, is this going to get worse? What about when we have kids? My fiancé has said they’ve done this to every girl he’s ever dated so I know it’s not me. They keep blaming me on absolutely everything and I’ve gone to the extreme of telling her to shut up and back off because being nice about anything wasnt solving the issues. No bride should ever hear she looks ugly in her wedding dress.