(Closed) Unbiased book on epidural vs. natural birth out there?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes!  This one:

http://www.amazon.com/Deliver-This-Childbirth-Choice-Everyone/dp/1580051537

It goes through everything from a home birth to a planned c-section, and is very un-biased. 

By the way, I also want to have an unmedicated birth but am concerned that I won’t be able to stand the pain.  We decided to hire a doula, b/c we firmly believe that having someone present during the birth who has a ton of experience with unmedicated labors will be necessary if we really want to pull it off. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I found this site and the accompanying book to be extremely helpful and unbiased: http://thebestbirth.com/. I watched the childbirth class DVDs, too, but I think the book was the most helpful.

It’s written by a retired L&D nurse and her stance is basically happy/healthy mother/baby, however you get there.  It was extremely reassuring and put my major L&D fears to rest.  

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@TurtleDoves:  I would say that while it might be romantic, a totally unassisted birth (which is what it sounds like your husband wants) would be ill advised. There should be  SOMEONE there who knows whats going on, not just taken a birthing class but exsperianced in it, while lots of labors and deliveries go off without a hitch, there is still a chance you will need skilled intervention, be it with a doula at home, in a birthing center, with a nurse midwife or in a hospital with a doctor. This is the book that was required for my women/children class in nursing school and provides info on pregnancy and unmedicated labor plus info on other interventions like epidural and c-section. I think the most important thing they taught us about all that fun process is, be flexable, what you plan and what your baby/body plan don’t always mess and sometimes an intervention you didn’t want may be best, sometimes things go just how you want!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

sorry, I don’t have a book title to help you with your decision. I do agree with Chasesgirl- having a totally unassisted birth is irresponsible. My sister had a 100% trouble free pregnancy, but half way through labor complications arose and who knows what could have happened if there wasn’t a nurse there to help and assist them both. I was originally against an epidural (I don’t like to take any type of medications. I very rarely take tylenol and didn’t take prenatal vitamins) and I have a pretty good pain tolerance, but labor pain is unlike any other. I was almost 8cm before I was screaming for the “damn epidural-NOW!”. So, with that said I would have someone who is experienced/licensed/certified in child birth with you and have the epidual as a back up.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

@TurtleDoves:  I honestly wasn’t scared of the thought of birth pain (and I have a low pain tolerance as well), until my midwife did the internal exam which included a pelvic tour – she did a “tour” of where the baby will be and made it uncomfortable on purpose. I was definitely yelling owwww throughout the exam. 

I came home and started crying to my Darling Husband that I’m a wimp and will probably cry during birth. He was really supportive. But I’m scared now too! I’m having baby in a birth center so I won’t even have the OPTION of an epidural, which I suppose is a good thing.

I read a lot of different books. I liked The Birth Partner which touched on it a little bit and The Pregnancy Book  by Dr. Sears, though I honestly can’t remember much of what he said on it. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@chasesgirl:  I think she meant hiring a doula for a hospital birth, not an unassisted home birth. It sounds like her husband just doesn’t want anyone besides the dr and nurses in the delivery room.

 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@ShennaB2b:  Just curious, why would you not take prenatal vitamins?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TurtleDoves:  I’m glad you like the site! It’s all about deciding what kind of experience you want to have, and it may be best to just see how bad it is.  I had a lot of pre-term labor complications, including a several hour stint in the ER weeks before my actual delivery, so I had a fair idea of what “real” contractions felt like.  They honestly weren’t that bad early on, and I probably could have made it longer than I did if I had really wanted to.  But part of what I wanted for an experience was for it to be lower key and less traumatic for everyone involved.  The epi gave me that ability.  I was able to tell jokes, smile, watch movies, chat with family, etc right up until I gave birth.  I didn’t have any complications with my epi, my son was perfectly healthy, and labor was actually a pleasant experience.  The nurses were even commenting on how shocked they were by how much fun we all had.  I 100% respect the women that go drug-free, but remember that there is no shame in the epi.  It’s just a personal choice that reflects what you want out of the experience.  

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My favorite book on labor/delivery is The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin.  I think it’s really detailed on both medicated and unmedicated births, and I felt like it presented all of the material in an unbiased way.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

@TurtleDoves:  Okay, I picked up The Pregnancy Book by Dr. Sears last night because I wanted to see what he said about it. He is VERY unbiased. His belief is that what is right for one woman, may not be right for another. So he gave some examples of poor use of epidurals, and good use. It actually changed my perspective a little bit. He also touched on how people want to believe so badly that they are safe, but he is honest and says that there is little research or evidence to say one way or another. So he will not outright say they are dangerous at all, but he also will not say they are 100% safe. I really liked what he had to say, I thought it was informative and well-written.

Yes, I’m sure it will be really good for me knowing the option isn’t even there. And my husband doesn’t want me to have an epi even more than I don’t! So I know I have good support, but definitely still nervous! 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

@Mrs. Spring:  That was one of my favorites too!! It’s SO good I asked Darling Husband to read it as well and he liked it. 

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