Post # 1
I’m so disgusted. I am not surprised, I guess, but disgusted. My Aunt told my SIL that she’d received our wedding invitation in the mail. SIL asked if my Uncle had seen it as well, Aunt replied “Oh, he won’t look at it”. Aunt tried to show it to him and he refused to look at it!! This is my mom’s brother.
I never expected them to come. I’ve posted about them several times before, they are life long members of the Church of Latter Day Saints (Mormon) and I know their position on our wedding, but my Aunt is pretty supportive regardless. I totally expect /expected a decline on the invite but figured it was rude to NOT invite them…
Just don’t know why he can’t be polite and look at the thing and say “Oh, those are nice” or whatever then give me a lame excuse for not attending.
How hard would that be? My Aunt seems bothered by his behavior too, which is something I guess, since she and he are both religious, she is much more tolerant though. Maybe because she has a lesbian daughter. When the subject comes up, she always seems torn on what she feels she is “supposed” to think, according to church doctrine, and what she personally thinks… kind of like she has to go along with being officially opposed but her heart isn’t in it, you know?
Post # 3
Ugh. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Ignorance can be really, really ugly sometimes.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I’m sorry. People suck sometimes. 🙁
Post # 5
@MsInterpret: So is your aunts daughter also your uncles daughter or is that his stepdaughter? I’m sorry you have to go through this. At least if they don’t come you won’t have a negative nancy there on that day. Only the people who are happy for you should be there.
Post # 6
I’m sorry too. People suck sometimes. Ignorance and intolerance are disgusting.
Post # 7
Hmph, well aren’t they missing out then?!?! Love is beautiful – regardlesd of sexua preference; and that’s the one thing they’ll miss out on. Its a shame (for them) … really … because you both are going to be so happy on that day … 🙂
Post # 8
I’m really sorry you are dealing with this. I’m sure your invitations are beautiful and it’s his loss for not viewing them.
Post # 9
Behavior like that happens for so many similar reasons. My cousin — who is not at all religious –did not go to his own daughter’s wedding because she married somebody who was not Jewish.
I feel bad for people like that because they have an undeveloped conscience and lack empathy and enjoyment for other people.
Post # 10
That’s some family values he’s got right there.
Ugh, I’m so sorry you have to go through this. *hugs*
Post # 11
@MsInterpret: That really sucks! Ugh! Can you show us your invites!?
Post # 12
Yeah, I want to see them!
Post # 13
I have a coworker who is LDS, and while she’s nice to everyone at work (we have a lot of gay and lesbian coworkers) when the actual issue comes up all she does is talk about the elders and “thats just the way it is”, she completely supported her church on Prop 8 (as in, she moved to Cali from Utah and supported her church influencing the campaign). She felt it was their responsibility to influence people to do the right thing. Some people just can’t be reasoned with, I’m really sorry you have to deal with this but you should let this go now or you will continue to feel bad about forever. You’ve known he was like this so you have to brush it off, you can’t let one person influence your day!
And yes, show us your invites!
Post # 14
Blech. That sucks. : / So sorry you have to deal with that.
Post # 15
Tell whomever told you to please not tell you negative things anymore. They could have just not said anything instead that he refused to see it. I think in this case it is better to not know what he thinks. Regardless how he feels, he should know that it is not his place to sit in judgement. If wants to lose out of your joyous occasion it is his loss. But really, don’t listen to the nay sayers. It will drive you crazy.
Post # 16
I wanna see your beautiful invites!!!
Im sorry your Uncle is being a sour puss!