Post # 1
I am guessing this is pretty normal but my husband is making me feel like somethings wrong and ill never be right. I had my m/c at 4 weeks 5 days and its been three weeks since it happened. So we have only had sex a handful of times. I still feel protective like with my body and am diffferent i know but isn’t that pretty much expected?? The first couple times it didn’t hurt but felt different.. ( almost like tender idk how else to describe it) But last night he seemed upset. said he wants me to enjoy it again. Hes nervous about it not being the same and if i will be.. Cant he understand?
Post # 2
It’s only been three weeks since you went through a traumatic experience, both emotionally and physically. He’s just going ot have to learn to take it slow for now. What did you say to him last night when you thought he seemed upset?
Post # 3
Men, even with the best of intentions, often have a hard time understanding what it’s like to have a miscarriage. The baby was his, too, but it happened in your body and most of the time, you bonded with the baby/pregnancy in a way that he didn’t. It’s not at all uncommon for you to still have difficult or complicated feelings about sex and your body three weeks after a miscarriage, but he probably won’t really get that unless you guys can have an honest and open talk about it. Ask him to be patient with you for now, and know that healing will come soon.
At the same time, it is important to work through the grief process. If you feel like you’re getting depressed or could just use some outside help, reach out for help. Therapy can be really helpful when you’re having a tough time dealing with a loss. Hang in there.
Post # 4
i agree, I started thinking like maybe i am not reacting normal. but it has only been a few weeks and yes it is so trauamtic of a experience. I tried to explain its going to take some time but he seems really nervous like it will never be the same..
yes, I told him to please give me time but he seems so worried. I don’t think he gets it at all.. I am going to counseling ( i go anyway for anxiety) I think he is making me feel like my reaction to sex now itsn’t normal and is just my anxiety.. So it is nice to hear that its normal. I am having a really hard time with this all. I am just so sad over it all 🙁
Post # 5
Are you in therapy? I’m sure miscarriage is very traumatic, and you seem to have a lot of questions and emotional difficulties. It seems like it would be a very good idea to talk to a professional.
Post # 6
Take all the time you need, but make sure you grieve in your own way. Don’t let this horrible experience consume you- just know you are not alone and one day you will feel ready. I’m sorry OP, wish I could give you a hug.
Post # 8
its definitely normal , we only had sex once in the 2-3 weeks following my 2nd MMC, take as much time you need, everyone is different. Hugs from the internet