(Closed) Uncomfortable w/ sex after m/c…

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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geniebean14:  It’s only been three weeks since you went through a traumatic experience, both emotionally and physically.  He’s just going ot have to learn to take it slow for now.  What did you say to him last night when you thought he seemed upset?

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Men, even with the best of intentions, often have a hard time understanding what it’s like to have a miscarriage. The baby was his, too, but it happened in your body and most of the time, you bonded with the baby/pregnancy in a way that he didn’t. It’s not at all uncommon for you to still have difficult or complicated feelings about sex and your body three weeks after a miscarriage, but he probably won’t really get that unless you guys can have an honest and open talk about it. Ask him to be patient with you for now, and know that healing will come soon.

At the same time, it is important to work through the grief process. If you feel like you’re getting depressed or could just use some outside help, reach out for help. Therapy can be really helpful when you’re having a tough time dealing with a loss. Hang in there.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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geniebean14:  Are you in therapy? I’m sure miscarriage is very traumatic, and you seem to have a lot of questions and emotional difficulties. It seems like it would be a very good idea to talk to a professional. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Take all the time you need, but make sure you grieve in your own way.  Don’t let this horrible experience consume you- just know you are not alone and one day you will feel ready.  I’m sorry OP, wish I could give you a hug.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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geniebean14:  its definitely normal , we only had sex once in the 2-3 weeks following my 2nd MMC, take as much time you need, everyone is different. Hugs from the internet

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